Bad grade in college

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you or your dcs ever had them? I can't say I ever did and ds never did either until a recent test he completely bombed. He is so upset and basically cannot get an A in that class now. Are there huge consequences to this?

It’s college. No one cares.

Did good grades come easy to him him high school? This may be a needed awakening.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So, the bad grade is a possible B?

No, it's a D. He said he basically could not get his final grade up to an A for the semester even if he got 100s on every assignment. He did very well first semester. I really wish he did not tell me this because now I am going to worry.

Why would *you* worry about a college student’s class grade?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kid got a C first semester freshman year in a prerequisite class. She reflected on her study skills and got a tutor for second semester. It's really not the end of the world. It's not fair to demand perfection.

I don't care about perfection and I don't ask about grades other than generally at the end of the term. But I do worry he will get a C or even fail that class. I would not even know about this obviously if he did not tell me! I feel like he should not have told me because I can't do anything about it.

So if he fails the class he takes it again. So what. Why is this such a catastrophe for you?

[Anonymous]

Is this for real? Way to anxious and way too over involved.

[Anonymous]

He retakes the class and gets an A. If employers ask for a transcript he shows them that he did well in the class in the end and it's fine. I'd rather see a D to A than a few Cs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He retakes the class and gets an A. If employers ask for a transcript he shows them that he did well in the class in the end and it's fine. I'd rather see a D to A than a few Cs.

No employer is going to ask for a transcript. For Heaven's sake.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He retakes the class and gets an A. If employers ask for a transcript he shows them that he did well in the class in the end and it's fine. I'd rather see a D to A than a few Cs.

No employer is going to ask for a transcript. For Heaven's sake.

Some do. DD is applying for internships right now and several have asked for her transcript. For some of those she has progressed to interviews so I guess they didn't care that she had a couple Cs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you or your dcs ever had them? I can't say I ever did and ds never did either until a recent test he completely bombed. He is so upset and basically cannot get an A in that class now. Are there huge consequences to this?

Not necessarily

Obviously he should he a tutor and speak with the teacher and figure out what exactly he missed in terms of studying for this test.

C’s get degrees one C is no big deal.

If he can drop the class maybe that’s an option .

Or some schools allow for taking a course again and if you get a better grade it replaces the other grade

Not the end of the world or their college career.

Lots of variables like if this is a core class for their major they need to mage sure this is the major they can succeed in.

This is a class he can't drop and needs but not even one of his hard classes. He was doing fine in it until this specific grade in the class (which is very specific, not really a class like Chem, Calc...) He was completely panicked and upset. I don't ask about grades because yes, I am a very anxious person. I just wish he did not tell me tbh because I immediately go into worry mode and problem solving mode. I tried to calm him down but he basically said he is screwed and there is no solution.

OP look at it this way. It's not your problem to solve.

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My feeling about it is this. Everything in life is not going to come easy for my kids and even if they work really hard, they won't be successful in everything. College is a great and supportive environment to figure out how to build yourself back up after something doesn't go well. Colleges accommodate disabilities. They offer free tutoring. There are all kinds of supports. I always feel bad for my kids when they don't do as well as they would like. But, I let them figure out what it is that they need to do differently and support them. I do offer suggestions if they ask or if I don't see that they are figuring things out.

One of my kids has disabilities that affect his ability to be successful in college. He didn't feel the need to engage in the disability support office in the beginning and as a result he didn't get accommodations that semester. - or good grades. But he learned a lot - like how to secure tutoring and when he needed to engage the disability support office. Another of my kids got their first C ever in college. She was really sad, but she was able to figure out that it was her fault for not admitting that she was struggling early enough to get the support she needed to get a better grade. It also helped her to narrow down what she wants to study - she learned that she does not, in fact, like certain subjects that she thought she did. So, I'm sorry she got a C but she grew a lot as a result.

I will say for my son, there are consequences. He is at a community college and wants to transfer to UMD-CP. As a result of the tough semester, he wasn't eligible until he completed two years at community college.

[Anonymous]

None of the successful people I know had straight As in college. None.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He retakes the class and gets an A. If employers ask for a transcript he shows them that he did well in the class in the end and it's fine. I'd rather see a D to A than a few Cs.

No employer is going to ask for a transcript. For Heaven's sake.

Some do. DD is applying for internships right now and several have asked for her transcript. For some of those she has progressed to interviews so I guess they didn't care that she had a couple Cs.

Yes, asking for a transcript and reading a transcript are two very different things. Asking for a transcript is free, reading them is a) a hassle, and b) boring.

But back to the subject in hand, I have never read my own kids' transcripts after they graduated High School. I figure it is there life. I ask them how they are getting on, GPA etc, but I couldn't care less about how they do in individual classes.

[Anonymous]

No one cares about college grades - let this one go, and help your child do the same

[Anonymous]

Once you get into college, you have to donkey up exponentially to get kicked out except for ish like cheating or acts that rise to the level of criminal misconduct that puts the university/college at risk of liability.

If you’ve been through college in decades past, just think of all the insane levels of misjudgment one probably witnesses every given weekend.

Half of all graduating classes are graduating in the bottom 50% of the class. As long as you earn that C or D honestly … you’re cool

There are an astonishing number of currently successful doctors who got C’s or D’s in organic chemistry.

It’s because the students who got A’s and B’s went into academic research and science

[Anonymous]

I got a C early in college. I got in Sigma Xi. Issue is why the C? Not prepared for that level of work? Not studying effectively? No aptitude? Learn from this.

[Anonymous]

I got a D+ in a required class. I have a bachelors and a doctorate.