Did your kid show any concern for you re:upcoming storm

[Anonymous]

I've checked in with my mom because we just talk normally and she brought up what she had done to get ready (also lives alone 3 hrs from me). My mom is also overbearing and her idea of "looking out for my welfare" can be suffocating and really irritating. I assume she's an adult, you don't need to be on her case about car issues or how to prep for the storm

[Anonymous]

My MIL needs no advice from us. She’s been living in snowy areas for most of her life.

I would assume people know what to do or would search for information if they don’t because that’s what I did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I spoke with both my kids and offered a few reminders ,(mainly due to the extreme cold). For example, fill up your car with gas and chg your furnace filter. My kids are local so I am sure we will compare snow amounts.

Why is changing the furnace filter important?

[Anonymous]

I checked up on my parents and all my mom responded was about how she just watched Dr Oz for an hour and how great he is. I guess that means she’s ok?

[Anonymous]

No because they know we’re competent adults who have had about a week of notice thus plenty of time to prepare.

[Anonymous]

We have heard from our 2 adults children, showing concern. Not needed, but sweet. Both live in much snowier climates than here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I checked up on my parents and all my mom responded was about how she just watched Dr Oz for an hour and how great he is. I guess that means she’s ok?

Not if she thinks he’s great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am retired, and live alone hours from her—but mine has not. Plus, she got annoyed that I was suggesting preparation plans to help her (re: car issues she is dealing with).

She does not “get” how nice it is to have someone looking out for your welfare.

(Trust me, as someone who feels very much on my own.)

I’m disappointed in the unkind comments. Sometimes children don’t grow up holding up the mirror to reflect back how they were parented. This likely has nothing to do with you. It may be simply differences in expectations, unresolved trauma that had nothing to do with you and you made not have been made aware of it. Perhaps she’s trying to separate herself as a way to develop her independence and self actualization. There are myriad of reasons this could be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am retired, and live alone hours from her—but mine has not. Plus, she got annoyed that I was suggesting preparation plans to help her (re: car issues she is dealing with).

She does not “get” how nice it is to have someone looking out for your welfare.

(Trust me, as someone who feels very much on my own.)

You are being annoying. If you car pay to get the car fixed or replaced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not a child's job to look after a parent until the child is fully grown and the adult is elderly

That is the scenario described by OP!

[Anonymous]

As long as you have groceries for the week and have stocked your medications, you will be fine. At most it’s going to be two or three days where the roads aren’t plowed. Maybe you’ll have a power outage for a couple hours.

It’s going to be okay. Really.

Make sure your phone is charged. That’s it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I spoke with both my kids and offered a few reminders ,(mainly due to the extreme cold). For example, fill up your car with gas and chg your furnace filter. My kids are local so I am sure we will compare snow amounts.

Why is changing the furnace filter important?

I’m assuming your hvac will run better but it’s just a routine thing to do.

[Anonymous]

If she's young, perhaps she has no memories of storm prep and is not in the right frame of mind to accept advice from you.

And/or, perhaps she's on the spectrum and has a difficult time putting herself in someone else's shoes. Our entire family is various shades of autistic, and some of my loved ones struggle with this, even though they love their family.

And/or, perhaps you want more attention and are more sensitive to perceived rejection than the average person, so you take offense very easily.

There is no way to know from your post what's going on exactly.

[Anonymous]

^ 21:54 again. My college kid has not asked us how we're doing with the storm. *I* am the one who is asking *him* how he's planning to manage a possible power outage, dining hall issue, etc. He has never had to personally think about such things, so to me it's normal that he has no clue.

[Anonymous]

How old is she? If she’s a young adult, the she may not be grasping the situation. If she’s in her 30s or 40s, and you are really alone, she should be thoughtful and ask if you have what you need.