I understand the "we do not care club" lady now

[Anonymous]

I get it. I don't know that it's peri so much as just aging, and midlife. Yes, dealing with physical issues all the time. But also parenting and hitting a point with that where I am so over the noise, the advice, the parents who love to compare. Also hitting a point in my career where I know how to do my job and just want to be left alone to do it. Also strong desire to just go live in the woods somewhere. My DH always wants to go on vacations to cities where we go a million places and these days I just want to lie down somewhere pleasant and read a book.

[Anonymous]

My favorite part of her account is discovering how many other women have acquired the same perimenopause/middle age quirks that I have. Why do we feel the need to pick up all the sticks in the yard?! Why can we not stomach leftovers?!

[Anonymous]

Interesting... I'm 45 and see myself sliding in that direction

[Anonymous]

I'm letting life run me over because I have no energy or patience to deal with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My favorite part of her account is discovering how many other women have acquired the same perimenopause/middle age quirks that I have. Why do we feel the need to pick up all the sticks in the yard?! Why can we not stomach leftovers?!

40 here and about 3 years ago I started picking trash up in parks and parking lots. I did like 50 old cigarette butts in a thrift store parking lot last week. I keep spare bags in my car now for this purpose. Its a nice dopamine hit

[Anonymous]

Trash lady here… I was inspired by David Sedaris iykyk

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yesterday my boss shared that he's getting the executive team leadership coaching as a gift. We had an introductory group zoom with the trainer and now I need to zoom with the young woman every other week to talk about "showing up" and "leading with authenticity" and some other stuff that would have been made into an inspirational poster back in the day.

This is my last position before I retire and I'm tired. I do my job. I take care of my team. We do great work and meet all of our goals. I get great reviews. I do not care about whatever "showing up" means besides doing my best at the job I have.

Some of those coaches are SUCH hacks. I could spot them when I was an IC and asked to talk to them ABOUT my managers, and now that I’ve been given the “opportunity” to have a coach for myself and my team, it’s confirmed all my prior conclusions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yesterday my boss shared that he's getting the executive team leadership coaching as a gift. We had an introductory group zoom with the trainer and now I need to zoom with the young woman every other week to talk about "showing up" and "leading with authenticity" and some other stuff that would have been made into an inspirational poster back in the day.

This is my last position before I retire and I'm tired. I do my job. I take care of my team. We do great work and meet all of our goals. I get great reviews. I do not care about whatever "showing up" means besides doing my best at the job I have.

Some of those coaches are SUCH hacks. I could spot them when I was an IC and asked to talk to them ABOUT my managers, and now that I’ve been given the “opportunity” to have a coach for myself and my team, it’s confirmed all my prior conclusions.

Those who can, do. Those who cannot, coach.

[Anonymous]

I started feeling this way when I hit 40 (was also during the pandemic).

[Anonymous]

Wow. I didn’t hit menopause until now at 56. I still felt really young at 46 so didn’t relate to any of the peri talk. I never have had a hot flash—but I get it now. I have no fks to give and tons of joint pain, lower back pain, shoulder pain where I had zero for 50 years, working out 6 days per week, lifting , running marathons, etc…now I hurt almost daily

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yesterday my boss shared that he's getting the executive team leadership coaching as a gift. We had an introductory group zoom with the trainer and now I need to zoom with the young woman every other week to talk about "showing up" and "leading with authenticity" and some other stuff that would have been made into an inspirational poster back in the day.

This is my last position before I retire and I'm tired. I do my job. I take care of my team. We do great work and meet all of our goals. I get great reviews. I do not care about whatever "showing up" means besides doing my best at the job I have.

Some of those coaches are SUCH hacks. I could spot them when I was an IC and asked to talk to them ABOUT my managers, and now that I’ve been given the “opportunity” to have a coach for myself and my team, it’s confirmed all my prior conclusions.

Those who can, do. Those who cannot, coach.

Some are hacks. Some are quite useful. I would have benefited from one in my younger years.

If you plan to retire soon, I can see why it would be pointless to work with a coach.

I know executive coaches socially. Many worked in corporate and now coach and mentor. Those folks don’t seem like hacks to me.

[Anonymous]

No clue who Melani is, but I am probably closer to legit menopause than perimenopause and I stopped caring about inconsequential things years ago.

I actually have to remind myself to not say “I don’t care” out loud because it sounds so harsh…but it’s true.

The reality is that the vast majority of things that people freak out about really don’t matter, so just roll with it. Deal with things as they come, don’t panic, get over it, move on…and count your blessings while prioritizing the precious few things that truly matter: your health, your family/loved ones, and whatever floats your boat and brings you joy (for me it’s travel and making sure I can stick my feet in the sand on a nice beach quarterly (at a minimum)).

[Anonymous]

I bought her book. She's delightful