I understand the "we do not care club" lady now

[Anonymous]

The We Do Not Care Club was made up by a woman on social media who talks about perimenopause. Her name is Melani and she started with a post during a hot flash in the Whole Foods parking lot. Now she's got over two million followers, got some sponsors, and wrote a book.

When her posts first started show up in my feed, I didn't really get them, but a few years into peri, I totally get it. It's like I don't have the bandwidth to care about small things. While I'm hyper aware of my body giving me a new curve ball every few weeks and the bs going on politically, I can't muster up the energy to get fired up over day-to-day things. That contractor didn't call back? Oh well, maybe tomorrow. The appointment got cancelled? Oh well, maybe they'll reschedule. I don't care.

Anyone else?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The We Do Not Care Club was made up by a woman on social media who talks about perimenopause. Her name is Melani and she started with a post during a hot flash in the Whole Foods parking lot. Now she's got over two million followers, got some sponsors, and wrote a book.

When her posts first started show up in my feed, I didn't really get them, but a few years into peri, I totally get it. It's like I don't have the bandwidth to care about small things. While I'm hyper aware of my body giving me a new curve ball every few weeks and the bs going on politically, I can't muster up the energy to get fired up over day-to-day things. That contractor didn't call back? Oh well, maybe tomorrow. The appointment got cancelled? Oh well, maybe they'll reschedule. I don't care.

Anyone else?

I mean, I've been like that for years and it has nothing to do with peri. Is the contention that peri makes high-strung women less high-strung? If so, that's a good thing. The rest of us weren't wound that tight to begin with.

[Anonymous]

Yesterday my boss shared that he's getting the executive team leadership coaching as a gift. We had an introductory group zoom with the trainer and now I need to zoom with the young woman every other week to talk about "showing up" and "leading with authenticity" and some other stuff that would have been made into an inspirational poster back in the day.

This is my last position before I retire and I'm tired. I do my job. I take care of my team. We do great work and meet all of our goals. I get great reviews. I do not care about whatever "showing up" means besides doing my best at the job I have.

[Anonymous]

I say it is the other way around and I have experienced it myself. I get more anxiety and panic attacks now than before and I am 44.

[Anonymous]

Love Melani, she's hilarious!

[Anonymous]

I love her, and I get where she is coming from.

The one silver lining of COVID for me was letting go of all the things that didn’t really matter to me. Couple that with some peri BS, and yes, I do not care about what I do not care about.

Some days, I take time to do my hair and makeup. Some days, I don’t. I’m always clean and presentable. But what’s funny to me is my coworker who goes over the top effusive to give me “positive reinforcement” on the days I choose to make a lot of effort. It’s like she’s trying to signal to me that I should do that every day. It’s cute, she’s 34. I’m 46. I wonder if she’ll ever realize how obnoxious it was for her to “encourage” me to dress up every day just to go to the office and see my immediate co-workers.

[Anonymous]

Ha. I never cared to begin with, so it's cracking me up that women are finally wising up. Actually, in my own peri journey, I'm definitely becoming more irritable so really need to work on my zen.

[Anonymous]

This post is useless without links

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This post is useless without links

Google works. That's me not caring about being nice when a lazy person ask me to do something they can so since they have the internet in their hand.

https://www.instagram.com/justbeingmelani/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yesterday my boss shared that he's getting the executive team leadership coaching as a gift. We had an introductory group zoom with the trainer and now I need to zoom with the young woman every other week to talk about "showing up" and "leading with authenticity" and some other stuff that would have been made into an inspirational poster back in the day.

This is my last position before I retire and I'm tired. I do my job. I take care of my team. We do great work and meet all of our goals. I get great reviews. I do not care about whatever "showing up" means besides doing my best at the job I have.

OMG i'm so sorry. Those types of things are so much BS and just...barf.

[Anonymous]

She just did a talk here!

https://www.instagram.com/p/DTyeoZPEnTt/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This post is useless without links

Google works. That's me not caring about being nice when a lazy person ask me to do something they can so since they have the internet in their hand.

https://www.instagram.com/justbeingmelani/

She's awesome!! Love her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This post is useless without links

Honey, We Do Not Care to do your Googling for you.

[Anonymous]

I used to want to get together with friends and host parties. Now, I don't want to hear about your job or your husband or your kids. I do not care anymore.

I have arranged my employment to be an individual contributor at about $100k/yr. I do not care about promotions, non-paid affinity groups, any type of coaching and I turn the volume down on town halls. I do not care anymore.

My kids are in college and high school. I pay off the PTA when they come panhandling, but no longer volunteer my time. I do not attend any in-person events where my child is not present or participating.

What do I care about? My health - I work out daily, eat very well and have s*x weekly with DH, who I do still care about. My hobbies - I spend my free hours devoted to my main two hobbies and am cultivating a third. That is all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to want to get together with friends and host parties. Now, I don't want to hear about your job or your husband or your kids. I do not care anymore.

I have arranged my employment to be an individual contributor at about $100k/yr. I do not care about promotions, non-paid affinity groups, any type of coaching and I turn the volume down on town halls. I do not care anymore.

My kids are in college and high school. I pay off the PTA when they come panhandling, but no longer volunteer my time. I do not attend any in-person events where my child is not present or participating.

What do I care about? My health - I work out daily, eat very well and have s*x weekly with DH, who I do still care about. My hobbies - I spend my free hours devoted to my main two hobbies and am cultivating a third. That is all.

Co-signed! I'm the pp with the leadership coach and we had to write down goals. I came up with: staying healthy and taking care of my people (my family and my office team). Your mentioning hobbies has me inspired, though. I've been meaning to look up classes at the Alliance Francaise...maybe that will be my hobby goal!