If Your Kid Got Pregnant Early

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you the mom from last week whose son said his girlfriend is pregnant? Keep it all in one thread.

If you're not, this looks like you're hunting for drama since you aren't talking about anything related to you specifically.

Why not also consider it a possibility that above mentioned thread or something else got OP thinking or worrying about this topic? Why jump to the worst conclusion?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A girl from my high school got pregnant in 10th grade. Or 11th don’t remember. Her and the boy are both attorneys now. She was in a gifted program in high school. She was always smart. She had a supportive and involved mother.

That baby is probably an attorney too now

Not that gifted if she accidentally got pregnant.

Even most effective birth control methods aren't 100% effective.

[Anonymous]

Usually the parents end up taking care of the baby so that the adult child can go to college. I know two women whose boyfriends abandoned them and they and their parents raised the baby. Both stayed at home and went to the local community college and then to the local university.

[Anonymous]

Our daughter got pregnant in her junior year of college. She decided to have the baby with no support from the father. She moved back in with us, had the baby and completed her education with us being there for her and the baby. She and her child lived with us for five years as she got her career going and built up savings. She knew we were very upset with her stupid mistake but we weren’t going to punish her and the baby forever. She’s been remarried for ten years with two more children and her first born is very special to us. FWIW my husband did a great thing by getting the baby’s father to give up all parental rights and disappearing forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Usually the parents end up taking care of the baby so that the adult child can go to college. I know two women whose boyfriends abandoned them and they and their parents raised the baby. Both stayed at home and went to the local community college and then to the local university.

+1. A woman I know got pregnant in college and her BF took off...a real POS. Her parents watched the child, she graduated from nursing school and was able to get a good job/support them both. Eventually she met a nice man, who is a great "father figure" to her child, and they ended up having more kids. They seem really happy. Nice when it works out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your kid ended up pregnant or getting someone else pregnant at a young age and gave up on ever getting a college education, how did you handle it?

Well, humans are fertile after puberty so it can happen to anyone. You should teach them common sense and sex education on top of getting them condoms and prescription for birth control. However, them becoming or get pregnant remains a possibility unless you get them temporarily or permanently neutered.

If this happens to yours before 21, therapy and abortion make more sense. However, after that, try to help them rise to the occasion unless circumstances are truly dire. In the end, its a decision for the couple, not the parents. You can only decide whether you are able or willing to provide any support or not.

oh shut up
Pro Choice forever

[Anonymous]

Pro choice doesn't mean you don't advise potential parents to seriously consider all possible options. Not any different than being pro-divorce yet advising couple to consider counseling and mediation before hiring a shark lawyer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your kid ended up pregnant or getting someone else pregnant at a young age and gave up on ever getting a college education, how did you handle it?

Well, humans are fertile after puberty so it can happen to anyone. You should teach them common sense and sex education on top of getting them condoms and prescription for birth control. However, them becoming or get pregnant remains a possibility unless you get them temporarily or permanently neutered.

If this happens to yours before 21, therapy and abortion make more sense. However, after that, try to help them rise to the occasion unless circumstances are truly dire. In the end, its a decision for the couple, not the parents. You can only decide whether you are able or willing to provide any support or not.

oh shut up
Pro Choice forever

Unless pregnant people are minors and your wards, you can't force your pro-choice or pro-life agenda. They have a right to decide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ruth Bader Ginsberg had a baby, then a year later went to Harvard Law.
It's possible but the young parent needs to want it, be really organized and have family / spousal support.

Why is parent singular in your response?

That is the problem in our society. Such pregnancies should not sidetrack women more than men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A girl from my high school got pregnant in 10th grade. Or 11th don’t remember. Her and the boy are both attorneys now. She was in a gifted program in high school. She was always smart. She had a supportive and involved mother.

That baby is probably an attorney too now

Not that gifted if she accidentally got pregnant.

I’m sorry are you and your husband attorneys now?

Obviously not if you fabricated “accidentally” when I never said such. I have no idea what their plans or reasons were. For all I know she could’ve had a health issue and needed to start a family at an accelerated pace.

Lol you needed to comment. 😒

[Anonymous]

The parents end up help with baby care so the adult child can go to school, and usually the parents of the other party end up paying child support.

Be sure to sue for child support and get DNA tests.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A girl from my high school got pregnant in 10th grade. Or 11th don’t remember. Her and the boy are both attorneys now. She was in a gifted program in high school. She was always smart. She had a supportive and involved mother.

That baby is probably an attorney too now

Not that gifted if she accidentally got pregnant.

Oh come on. If they were both able to go on and get JDs after a teen pregnancy they are both hard working and intelligent.

Would I have made that choice, had I gotten pregnant that young - probably not. Would I be thrilled if that happened to my child - most definitely not. But I'm certainly not going to be snarky about a family who went ahead and was able to manage all of that.

And if that were to happen to my child and she wanted to keep the baby, I would hope to support her as much as I was capable of.

This also goes to show that family support (and likely) money, can really make a huge difference in the outcome of an unplanned, early pregnancy. Just like having family money and involved grandparents make having children easier when you're a 30-something professional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A girl from my high school got pregnant in 10th grade. Or 11th don’t remember. Her and the boy are both attorneys now. She was in a gifted program in high school. She was always smart. She had a supportive and involved mother.

That baby is probably an attorney too now

Not that gifted if she accidentally got pregnant.

Somebody was day drinking

[Anonymous]

I would have my child move home, attend Mason and I’d care for the baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pro choice doesn't mean you don't advise potential parents to seriously consider all possible options. Not any different than being pro-divorce yet advising couple to consider counseling and mediation before hiring a shark lawyer.

Right now with RFK Jr anyone bringing a child into this hellhole is pro birth not pro life.

If a college student gets pregnant abortion is the right answer

They are too dumb to bring a child into this world if they can not use BC properly.