Do you ever fell like yelling at your kids?

[Anonymous]

I suppose so since I do

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe how many of you don’t yell. I have three boys, and I yell daily. I feel like most of the time, it’s the only way they’ll respond! I guess I’m a bad mom…

[Anonymous]

I yell all the time. Maybe not every day, but 5 out of 7 days for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe how many of you don’t yell. I have three boys, and I yell daily. I feel like most of the time, it’s the only way they’ll respond! I guess I’m a bad mom…

I'm guessing a lot of the non-yellers are the parents of small children, probably girls. To them I say: Just wait.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe how many of you don’t yell. I have three boys, and I yell daily. I feel like most of the time, it’s the only way they’ll respond! I guess I’m a bad mom…

No, you're not a bad mom. I have three boys too. I yell everyday.

[Anonymous]

Yes, and then I do.

[Anonymous]

I yell everyday at my small child, who is a girl. Eight is tough. 0-5 were amazing years. I need better tools, but sometimes, it's like, "do not leave slime around for the dog to swallow it for the 1000000 time. Do not fish slime out of the trash after I through it out. Do not hide the remote control or my phone for throwing out your slime."

[Anonymous]

2 boys. I didn't raise my voice a single time until the oldest hit 5 or so. I literally remember the first time . Now...I yell a at least a little most days. Some days I yell too much and apologize. We also have a lot of fun together and are a very tight-knit family. My DH and I do my best and love them to bits. They are very happy guys. In terms of whether it's damaging to kids, I think it really depends on how you yell, why you yell, and what you are saying when you yell. Usually I'm just trying to be heard over the noise!

[Anonymous]

Is there a difference between yelling and screaming? I do yell regularly. I try not to scream.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I have 3 kids under age 7 and have never had the slightest urge to yell at them or even raise my voice.

How medicated are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I have 3 kids under age 7 and have never had the slightest urge to yell at them or even raise my voice.

Well, yeah. Yelling at little kids is kind of pointless. Come back when you have older kids who know exactly what they are doing and do it anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe how many of you don’t yell. I have three boys, and I yell daily. I feel like most of the time, it’s the only way they’ll respond! I guess I’m a bad mom…

No, you're not a bad mom. I have three boys too. I yell everyday.

Another mom of 3 boys here. Right there with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I have 3 kids under age 7 and have never had the slightest urge to yell at them or even raise my voice.

Wait til they start talking back to you. I think this part of parenting is easier when they are super little.

PP is a perfect mom. Let her cook.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have felt that way before but have always found a way to deal with it so that I don't yell. Step out of the room for a minute, take some deep breaths, even just closing my eyes for a moment. Whatever it takes. Yelling is not an effective parenting strategy and it can have long term negative impacts on your relationship with your kids.

Both of my parents were big yellers and it led to me really losing respect for them. Because it made me realize at a young age that they had no idea what they were doing. They didn't have control over their emotions, they didn't know how to communicate with us. They didn't know how to set a good example, how to be the adult. A kid can lose their temper and yell and you let it go because they are a child. But an adult needs to do better. That's what I always remind myself -- I am the adult. I can do better.

Counterpoint-my parents were amazing parents who sometimes lost their temper and yelled. It did not make me think they were bad parents. It did not damage our relationship. It did not traumatize me.
I am a parent who sometimes yells at my kids because I am not a perfect person.

[Anonymous]

I once asked a neighbor who never seemed to yell and yet had very well-behaved children how she did it. She explained that her boys knew that if they didn’t listen they would have to kneel on grits.

I sometimes yell and apologize but we don’t do corporal punishment.