Do you ever fell like yelling at your kids?

[Anonymous]

I know we are not supposed too, but it fells like at times just telling them stop doesn't work, best way to tell them to listen and stop acting up.

[Anonymous]

I have felt that way before but have always found a way to deal with it so that I don't yell. Step out of the room for a minute, take some deep breaths, even just closing my eyes for a moment. Whatever it takes. Yelling is not an effective parenting strategy and it can have long term negative impacts on your relationship with your kids.

Both of my parents were big yellers and it led to me really losing respect for them. Because it made me realize at a young age that they had no idea what they were doing. They didn't have control over their emotions, they didn't know how to communicate with us. They didn't know how to set a good example, how to be the adult. A kid can lose their temper and yell and you let it go because they are a child. But an adult needs to do better. That's what I always remind myself -- I am the adult. I can do better.

[Anonymous]

yes of course. It's natural. Try not to, of course. But if you do, you can apologize and move on. That's good to model too

[Anonymous]

Yes, but we live in the apartment and neighbors would suffer from any yelling. I usually promise to take the phone or computer away. They are too loud playing with friends.
Outside of the house? Never. They control their behavior in public.

[Anonymous]

Please develop a system of privileges that can be earned (and taken away) and logical consequences. Parenting with Love and Logic has some great ideas (even if parts of the book have a decidedly Christian perspective). Have ideas in mind before you have a major family blow-up.

One of the problems educators are seeing in school is that kids are trained at home to only respond to yelling. We can’t raise our voices at work without being sanctioned, but children don’t think adults are serious about following through until they hear yelling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you ever feel like yelling at your kids?

I know we are not supposed too, but it fells like at times just telling them stop doesn't work, best way to tell them to listen and stop acting up.

I think you're missing a "not" in the subject of this thread.

[Anonymous]

It's FEEL, not fell. You wrote it wrong twice.

[Anonymous]

I yell when they are being unsafe. I have to get their attention.

[Anonymous]

People who make it a strict policy to never yell at their kids either have naturally well behaved ones, have produced hopelessly anxious kids that are going to spend the rest of their life on benzos, or are inflicting their hellspawn on the rest of us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have felt that way before but have always found a way to deal with it so that I don't yell. Step out of the room for a minute, take some deep breaths, even just closing my eyes for a moment. Whatever it takes. Yelling is not an effective parenting strategy and it can have long term negative impacts on your relationship with your kids.

Both of my parents were big yellers and it led to me really losing respect for them. Because it made me realize at a young age that they had no idea what they were doing. They didn't have control over their emotions, they didn't know how to communicate with us. They didn't know how to set a good example, how to be the adult. A kid can lose their temper and yell and you let it go because they are a child. But an adult needs to do better. That's what I always remind myself -- I am the adult. I can do better.

You sound really judgemental tbh.

[Anonymous]

I am not a yeller by nature so no, I never feel like raising my voice. I do feel like crying in times of great challenge but I won't let myself in front of my dc.

[Anonymous]

No, I have 3 kids under age 7 and have never had the slightest urge to yell at them or even raise my voice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I have 3 kids under age 7 and have never had the slightest urge to yell at them or even raise my voice.

Wait til they start talking back to you. I think this part of parenting is easier when they are super little.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know we are not supposed too, but it fells like at times just telling them stop doesn't work, best way to tell them to listen and stop acting up.

You don’t need to yell if you don’t give empty threats. This is where parents fail the most, in my opinion. ‘If you don’t do this, then we’re leaving’ or whatever but they say it 10 times. Consequence, follow through and your kids will start to get it. Be consistent every time

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I don't yell at them.