Just back from a sorority reunion

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Glad it was great for you - my Greek experienced involved being gang raped

How terrible! Truly sorry

Thank you, I’m still working to get over it as pp says thirty years later. To add insult to injury I was kicked out of my sorority afterwards for “seducing” the sorority presidents boyfriend.

I truly am glad people have different experiences but there’s just too much risk with rape, alcohol poisoning, exclusion for me to ever encourage young girls to rush.

[Anonymous]

There are all kinds of sororities. Even ones for the band geeks, business geeks, and hot girl. OP was probably in one of the sororities that took anyone who could afford to join.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Glad it was great for you - my Greek experienced involved being gang raped

Jesus. Sorry to hear that but also that could happen to anyone, Greek or not.

Fraternities are a blight on society. Sororities, imo, tend to be more positive.

[Anonymous]

Its been almost 20 years since, and I still miss those times everyday.

[Anonymous]

Some of you could not possibly be more miserable, huh?

[Anonymous]

well this thread escalated quickly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Posts like these make me wonder. Though I have heard some good things about sororities, I have always counseled my DD to avoid them. My logic is based on the statistic that being in a sorority makes a girl more likely to be raped (by almost 2X!) It seems to make sense, given that sororities socialize with fraternities, who have vastly different (read:lower) standards for men than a woman would have when assessing an individual man for dating potential. It's like a workaround for sub-par guys to encounter women that society would normally shield from them, under circumstances that make the women vulnerable. Also, if you have picked your school well to ensure fit, shouldn't most people there be potential friends for you? You went to all the trouble to find a school with like-minded kids. Why focus time and attention on an exclusive minority? Then I hear some girls rave about their experiences and I think perhaps I've been too quick to judge. It still seems like the potential downside is greater than the upside, though.

I disagree with most of your logic. If you drink to excess, you often lose the ability to make good decisions. Don’t blame that on a sorority. As a parent, my job was to educate my child to be safe and careful (be aware of your surroundings when walking alone, don’t ever leave your drink unattended and to stay with your friends). Sororities, and fraternities for that matter, should be looked at as another group of friends (not your ONLY group of friends).

The fact that sorority members actually experience rape and sexual assault in much higher numbers is significant, though. You can dispute my logic, but that's a reality. I notice you didn't speak to most of my individual points, but went straight to alcohol. Interesting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are all kinds of sororities. Even ones for the band geeks, business geeks, and hot girl. OP was probably in one of the sororities that took anyone who could afford to join.

Snob

[Anonymous]

How did everyone turn out OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One time I noticed a flood of well-dressed black women who were clearly tourists in my neighborhood over a couple days and finally asked one on the bus about her pink and green. Yep it was a sorority reunion. They were all so happy and it was fun to see.

It is a privilege to belong to that sorority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Posts like these make me wonder. Though I have heard some good things about sororities, I have always counseled my DD to avoid them. My logic is based on the statistic that being in a sorority makes a girl more likely to be raped (by almost 2X!) It seems to make sense, given that sororities socialize with fraternities, who have vastly different (read:lower) standards for men than a woman would have when assessing an individual man for dating potential. It's like a workaround for sub-par guys to encounter women that society would normally shield from them, under circumstances that make the women vulnerable. Also, if you have picked your school well to ensure fit, shouldn't most people there be potential friends for you? You went to all the trouble to find a school with like-minded kids. Why focus time and attention on an exclusive minority? Then I hear some girls rave about their experiences and I think perhaps I've been too quick to judge. It still seems like the potential downside is greater than the upside, though.

I disagree with most of your logic. If you drink to excess, you often lose the ability to make good decisions. Don’t blame that on a sorority. As a parent, my job was to educate my child to be safe and careful (be aware of your surroundings when walking alone, don’t ever leave your drink unattended and to stay with your friends). Sororities, and fraternities for that matter, should be looked at as another group of friends (not your ONLY group of friends).

The fact that sorority members actually experience rape and sexual assault in much higher numbers is significant, though. You can dispute my logic, but that's a reality. I notice you didn't speak to most of my individual points, but went straight to alcohol. Interesting.

Or maybe they report more because they have a strong support network

[Anonymous]

How is this different from any reunion of college friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How did everyone turn out OP?

+1. Did everyone marry well?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are all kinds of sororities. Even ones for the band geeks, business geeks, and hot girl. OP was probably in one of the sororities that took anyone who could afford to join.

Many sororities today offer reduced dues if money is an issue. Sorry if that was an obstacle for you back in the day.

[Anonymous]

I think social sororities were a good thing in the past for sure. There were a lot fewer women in college in the 80s and before. Now that we have a lot more women going to college, more than young men, plus the proliferation of social media, it seems like what was once a good or at least neutral thing has become excessively commoditized and commercialized. The “built-in support group” and fundraising aspects have become completely overshadowed by “flexing our awesome mansion and our 10 hottest members on social media.”