Are you friends with your teens’ friends’ parents?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m friendly and we hang out at school events but I would not say I’m friends with any of my two teens’ friends’ parents. They drifted apart from the friends that we were friends with when kids were younger.

Same here. It’s ok with me.

[Anonymous]

No! It’s marvelous! I don’t even know most of their names. It’s heavenly!

[Anonymous]

funny and in the other posts, you all dwell how social your are to avoid dementia. you are so american, you don't even know how well this all fits in the current environment. friendly and shallow.

[Anonymous]

My DCs both moved to different schools for HS. We met a lot of parents through sports. I am still friends with several parents of my younger DC, who went to our public high school, although the two closest friends have since moved away. I was friendly with some of my older DCs high school friends, but have not stayed in touch with them so not really friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:funny and in the other posts, you all dwell how social your are to avoid dementia. you are so american, you don't even know how well this all fits in the current environment. friendly and shallow.

This makes no actual sense, even if English isn't your first language.

Anyway, being friends with or friendly with the parents of you kids is helpful, especially in high school, because you want to keep the lines of communications open. We were good friends with the parents of DCs girlfriend and it was helpful to corroborate stories.

[Anonymous]

I’m friendly acquaintances with one set of parents we know because they went to the same elementary school and live in our neighborhood. We don’t know any of the other friend’s parents and are fine with that.

[Anonymous]

I am, but my kids still have a lot of the same friends from preschool and early ES. I am not friends with the parents of the kids my kids befriended after elementary. Don’t even know most of them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am, but my kids still have a lot of the same friends from preschool and early ES. I am not friends with the parents of the kids my kids befriended after elementary. Don’t even know most of them!

+1

[Anonymous]

Friends no, but we know each other and can text each other with concerns if need be. We have a text thread.

[Anonymous]

We stayed close friends with some of the preschool and elementary school parents, but for the most part don’t know the high school families well unless we already had a social connection to them. I think we’ll keep in touch with at most one or two sets of these parents after graduation while the parents from the early years are who we travel with and see all the time.

[Anonymous]

Interesting. My DS had pretty much the same of friends he hung out with from elementary through HS. Now a college soph and still friends with them. We know those parents quite well and I would consider them friends.

DD who is a HS junior, has played soccer with the same group of girls since she was 10 and I would say that my wife is friends with a group of the other moms. I'm just friendly with the Dads. She has a whole group of HS friends and I met the parents a few times but not friends with them at all. Same with my wife. Just don't see them often enough.

[Anonymous]

Only with one family.
We have our own friend circles outside of kids.

Less messy this way to. As the stories the one family shares are obnoxious. Especially when things fall out due to the kids. Which it always does.

No thanks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Friends no, but we know each other and can text each other with concerns if need be. We have a text thread.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m friendly and we hang out at school events but I would not say I’m friends with any of my two teens’ friends’ parents. They drifted apart from the friends that we were friends with when kids were younger.

One kid made new friends in late MS. At some point freshman year, I invited the 4 families (parents and kids) to our home for a BBQ to get to know each other, and that turned into friendships with 2 of the couples, and better acquaintances with the other 2.

The other kid separated from friend group also in MS, but we remained friends with the parents even though the kids are no longer friendly

[Anonymous]

Only the ones I was friends with since before the kids were even born or little enough that I don’t even remember if I met them before the kids were born.