Are you friends with your teens’ friends’ parents?
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Anonymous
| I’m friendly and we hang out at school events but I would not say I’m friends with any of my two teens’ friends’ parents. They drifted apart from the friends that we were friends with when kids were younger. |
Anonymous
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A handful of them - the ones from elementary school that they are still friendly with and live in our neighborhood.
New friends from HS? No. |
Anonymous
Same |
Anonymous
Same! DD14 has a bunch of different groups of friends. One group, I am extremely close with the other moms. Another group, I consider them good friends but not as close. The rest, I'm friendly with but I wouldn't say friends. I at least know a parent of virtually all of her friends. |
Anonymous
| I am friendly acquaintences with all of my teens’ friend parents, but definitely not friends. |
Anonymous
This. I wouldn't mind being friends with the new friends' parents. They seem cool. But there's no natural way for it to happen. |
Anonymous
| Friendly, like hang out at events, talk on the phone, have them over type of thing. But not friends that outlast the kids' relationships/connections. |
Anonymous
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Oldest - college freshman now. He made a complete new friend group in HS. Not one friend left from elementary school. I honestly couldn’t tell you their last names. I met a couple at sport events through high school but that’s it.
Youngest - in 10th - most of his friends are from elementary & middle school. I am friends with several of the parents. Some I didn’t meet until he was in middle school, and we hit it off as “mom” friends. We get together every few months. Our kids aren’t best friends and have had ups & downs in their friendship, but we’ve decided to remain friends even if our kids drift apart. |
Anonymous
No. Friendly, but not "friends." |
Anonymous
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I am friends with my kids’ elementary school friends, they are in high school now.
I know most of their HS friends’ parents, but I am not friends with any of them. |
Anonymous
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I’m 57 empty nester.
Still friends with some parents I met in Elementary school. Never met parents from new HS friends. |
Anonymous
| Yes because my freshman still has the same friends from elementary school/middle school. If they made new friends I don’t know how I’d even meet the parents. We are friendly with ones from the sports teams and spend a lot of time together, but once those teams end we won’t go out of our way to hang out with them though I enjoy the time I spend with them. |
Anonymous
You could meet them in the stands of a sports event or at the drama after party. (Just 2 examples) But yes general friend not connected to a school activity we don’t know them. |
Anonymous
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We feel we're in this together. Could reach out and discuss any true concerns. Some you genuinely click with more than others. Are cautious to not insert ourselves into this friendship dynamic. The teen friendship is so much more important than us finding another adult friend, we need to honor that. Look harder, elsewhere, for your own friends.
Once the teen is off to college, it feels better to deepen those adult friendships |
Anonymous
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My teens did sports, and there are many sports parents I like a lot and we enjoy hanging out. But we don't really socialize outside of the sports seasons.
There are probably 5 current friends of my teens whose parents we actually enjoy hanging out with and we have sometimes done Moms stuff or they've invited us to parties at their house or we've paired up to take kids to concerts and stuff and we've enjoyed hanging out and let the kids go off together during the show. So short answer: Yes, with some of their friends' parents, but then there are a whole lot that we enjoy talking to when we see, but I wouldn't call them friends. One DD now has her first official boyfriend, and so far we LOVE his parents, so we'll probably be seeing a lot more of them soon. |