Where has the sparks gone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here
I got some cake that he likes.
He got a sacher slice cake.

Don’t think anything else is happening.
…would be fake.

did you guys have sex?

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t.

Or if you feel that you MUST get a present >> perhaps a self-help book for him.

[Anonymous]

Do you go on date nights or even for walks by yourselves?

The “can’t get enough” fever naturally subsides but you can maintain a strong, less intense love … as a PP said, it does need gardening…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I have been married for 23 yeqrs .. tomorrow is our Anniversary.
We were so in love … mersmerized by each other coildnt het enough.
Then slowly it all vanished.
We have a troubled marriage.
Yes ainknow people chnage priorities change with kids, elderly, work.

I used to spend days and weeks to find the perfect Anniv card and gift.
Here I am sitting with nothing. We barely talk unless its necessary for some task.
He always snaps these days so I always try to avoid conversations.

But I do miss those days and think of them often.

Sorry … but just venting out.
Wondering if I should pick up anything at all.

Have you tried telling him these things

[Anonymous]

Did you say you are there for the kids? I left my H in a similar marriage dynamic after 24 yrs, I've now been divorced for 27 years and haven't regretted it for a second. He and I are friends. There was no abuse or narcissism or meanness, just lost the feelings. Well, definite libido mismatch too but I waited until the youngest was out of HS to make my move. Much better than being unhappily married to each other. And by the way, the kids are and have been fine the whole time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They ran away with "have"

+1

[Anonymous]

"I used to spend days and weeks to find the perfect Anniv card and gift."

it sounds like you were always a boring person. sorry.

[Anonymous]

The "can't get enough" drug is part of breeding and reproducing. Once the body feels time has passed to either have done the job or the job won't be done the intensity drastically reduces. Then you need to somehow trick the body into sex with the same person being something different and new.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The "can't get enough" drug is part of breeding and reproducing. Once the body feels time has passed to either have done the job or the job won't be done the intensity drastically reduces. Then you need to somehow trick the body into sex with the same person being something different and new.

old people fall in love, too