Kicked out of preschool

[Anonymous]

Start with your county early intervention but also get yourself on a waitlist for a developmental pediatrician.

[Anonymous]

Start teaching your kid not before a diagnosis. Write a social story, find a book on the issue teach yourself to address it at home. Don't wait.

[Anonymous]

We started to do Child Find but we were threatened with an investigation and dropped out. I only speak English (and maybe some bad French), and I could not answer the question of what language our twice a month cleaning service ladies were speaking to my toddler. I said I thought it was Spanish or Portuguese, but I was not sure. The coordinator, who had opened the conversation in non-English, became very irritated and let me know that our entire family was going to be invested by CPS. (I do not know if she reported us, but we were never investigated). If you talk on the phone with Child Find make sure that you record the conversation in case you need a lawyer later. If you can afford to not deal Child Find and use other resources, it might be worth it to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Therapy at this age is worthless. Look for parent training to help you in the home.

I think parent training/coaching is a great first step. If anything they’ll teach you to be consistent and depending on the special needs, consistency is one of the most important ways for your kid to learn how to manage daily expectations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm at a loss for what else to do until I get off the waitlist and he can start therapy and maybe get a diagnosis of some sort.

OP maybe you knew this already but for kids in the preschool years, think of the parents as the therapists. Therapy time is spent teaching the parents how to interact with the kid. Look into Parent Child Journey (think of it as an intro class) and then Parent Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT). Best of luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We started to do Child Find but we were threatened with an investigation and dropped out. I only speak English (and maybe some bad French), and I could not answer the question of what language our twice a month cleaning service ladies were speaking to my toddler. I said I thought it was Spanish or Portuguese, but I was not sure. The coordinator, who had opened the conversation in non-English, became very irritated and let me know that our entire family was going to be invested by CPS. (I do not know if she reported us, but we were never investigated). If you talk on the phone with Child Find make sure that you record the conversation in case you need a lawyer later. If you can afford to not deal Child Find and use other resources, it might be worth it to you.

This doesn't make any sense.

[Anonymous]

Have his hearing and vision been checked? Any strep infections recently?

[Anonymous]

It seems you are pressed on time. Dev peds then referral for appropriate private testing even it costs thousands. Or you can languish for 18 months while your child continues to get kicked out of preschools and maybe receives 30 minutes of OT per week from the district under a nebulous diagnosis which will accomplish nothing.

[Anonymous]

My nephew was kicked out of his daycare for aggression. It was recommended that he do behavior therapy and his mom did 2 weeks of that before declaring it a waste of time.
As he grew into a teen he didn't have many friends. He spent hours playing video games. His mom said he had social anxiety. He wasn't a warm person as he grew into an adult. Despite being very smart and a graduate from a good SLAC he still lives at home and doesn't seem to work at the age of 28.

[Anonymous]

Watch supernanny. If you haven't watched it a British nanny goes and works with families who have out of control kids.

Seems like a crazy suggestion but I sat down and watched episodes of Supernanny that had preschoolers and got some great strategies. I realized I wasn't being consistent

Then I sat and watched clips with my son. Watching other kids who were out of control while he was calmly watching was really interesting. It was like something clicked.

Obviously it wasn't a quick fix but gave me some great strategies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has your son been in daycare since infancy? Sometimes this can contribute to attachment issues and problems with emotional regulation. A psychodynamic therapist, spending more time with him, and if you absolutely require care, a nurturing nanny, are steps worth considering if this is the situation. I hope good things for you and your child.

Oh shut up.

[Anonymous]

As a former preschool director, I'd stay the HECK away from the corporates - Bright Horizons, KinderCare, La Petite, Celebree, Kiddie Academy, and all the rest.

I'd start with the other ones listed, but if they are full, then you can see if you can find a smaller class size program where the teachers have lots of experience, where they understand that children can get overwhelmed, and overstimulated, which is what often creates the "aggression."

[Anonymous]

As you wait for an evaluation, I’d recommend this place for therapy (and the theraschool there is an option). https://thefloortimecenter.com/theraschool/

Floortime is great in the preschool age- I’d look into the Thera school and OT there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Watch supernanny. If you haven't watched it a British nanny goes and works with families who have out of control kids.

Seems like a crazy suggestion but I sat down and watched episodes of Supernanny that had preschoolers and got some great strategies. I realized I wasn't being consistent

Then I sat and watched clips with my son. Watching other kids who were out of control while he was calmly watching was really interesting. It was like something clicked.

Obviously it wasn't a quick fix but gave me some great strategies.

Do they make supernanny for teens? lol.

OP you have gotten good advise. In our case it helped a lot to switch to a very low key understanding program that he did half day, then a nanny for the rest of the day. Went from constant reports of aggression to fine. The aggression did not go away permanently but the type of program made a huge difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has your son been in daycare since infancy? Sometimes this can contribute to attachment issues and problems with emotional regulation. A psychodynamic therapist, spending more time with him, and if you absolutely require care, a nurturing nanny, are steps worth considering if this is the situation. I hope good things for you and your child.

Go away, troll.