Constant texting but no second date!

[Anonymous]

Just stop texting. If he reaches out again, say you’re not up for a pen pal, but if he wants to go out again, he can call.

[Anonymous]

Stop texting. Stop engaging with the guy.

People with online dating are meeting a lot of people concurrently.

If he wants to ask you out he can.

[Anonymous]

Texting is the worst thing to happen to women looking to seriously date. It’s a super low effort way to keep women on the hook while he keeps his options open. Online dating 101: *Do not* do the “good morning” texts with some dude you had coffee with once. Dating is the same as it ever was: if a man wants to see you he will make plans to meet. Not text “you up?”.

[Anonymous]

Why would anyone text and invest so much energy into a connection to not want to see me in person?

Because it’s a zero commitment way to keep you available to him. Women don’t understand this, but should.

[Anonymous]

Good morning good night texts a date or two in should be buried with no hope of seeing the light. Hell to the nooo.

[Anonymous]

The divorced dad is not dating a million people. Between work, kids, family, friends, and hobbies, he barely has time. Two weeks is nothing for a parent with kids. A sick child can take out an entire week! And the holidays are crazy busy with school events, parties, family, and work deadlines. It sounds like he likes you enough to keep in contact. Just wait for him to make the next move (but date other people in the meantime).

[Anonymous]

I would be so confused too!!

Maybe he is married or has a serious girlfriend and simply cannot get away.

Could this be a possibility?
Otherwise I am stumped too!!

[Anonymous]

Hello! Earth to DCUM! These men are hooking up left and right. If they have shared custody, they've got plenty of opportunities when the kids are at their mom's house to have a ONS or go on real dates. Divorced men who are willing to date women their own age are in high demand around here, especially if they are well educated and have a decent job. And plenty of them are not actually emotionally available, but will enjoy the dopamine hits that come from fun and flirty texting with an attractive woman.

This man is not too busy to meet up for a second date. He is choosing not to do so. We have no idea what is going on, but it is clear that he isn't interested enough to put any effort into developing a relationship. If there were ever a situation where the phrase "If he wanted to, he would" was appropriate, this is it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I a 38 year old woman met this cute guy who is 46, a divorced dad of two girls.

We had a coffee meet up off the apps 2 weeks ago. I did not go in with high hopes but we had an easy banger and fun conversation. He was smart and much more handsome in person than on his photos in the apps. He hugged me twice and took my number saying he’d like to see me again.

Afterwards we texted all day…and we have been texting since! I fell ill last weekend and he kept checking in on me, even when I went to urgent care. We had a call and had a deep and intense conversation. He texts me good morning and good night. Sending me pictures and videos of his day sometimes.

The weekend I was sick he said he wanted to see me once I’m better. Last Friday I asked him if he wanted to hang out Sunday and he said he is out of town.

Over the past few days we have been flirting heavily..nothing crude but sweet and romantic.

If he doesnt ask me out this week, I’m out!

Why would anyone text and invest so much energy into a connection to not want to see me in person? Just not that into me?

Spoiler: he isn’t divorced

[Anonymous]

Op here. He hasn’t texted in 2 days now. I guess he wasn’t that into me and ghosted me!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people like to have a flirty text buddy who they can keep at arms length. Dopamine hit from the attention but no real responsibility.

You mean women, not “people.”

[Anonymous]

So many people on the apps do this. Texting is the death of an early relationship.

But you don’t sound ready for a relationship anyways. Why are you dating loser divorced dads at your age? You’re just setting yourself up to be a f^ck buddy. If tha ts what you want then fine, but don’t be complaining about his lack of commitment and initiative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Texting is the worst thing to happen to women looking to seriously date. It’s a super low effort way to keep women on the hook while he keeps his options open. Online dating 101: *Do not* do the “good morning” texts with some dude you had coffee with once. Dating is the same as it ever was: if a man wants to see you he will make plans to meet. Not text “you up?”.

Yes, this.