Separated W feling energized after flirt with elderly dentist

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Anonymous wrote:I'm glad this did it for you, OP. I would have been really put off by this kind of behavior, left the practice and probably complained. I know some will call me prude or whatever the judgmental eff, but as a survivor, it's really unsettling to have sexuality laid on thick where I don't and shouldn't expect it. People I hire to perform clinical services definitely fall into that category for me.

Again, glad that wasn't your reaction to it. Just wanted to put that out there for any clinicians who might be reading and thinking about trying this on as a strategy. Please don't.

+1. I don't have experience with assault, but that behavior would be such a turn off for me. His behavior sounds strangely manipulative in the way that many charming people are. Not to mention totally unprofessional. The kind of guy I would keep away from my daughter.

OP I'm rooting for you and don't want to be mean, but you find attention from guys who aren't creepy.

I'm sure OP's dentist can read the room. He would never do anything like that to you.

Glad it has a positive effect on OP.

OP here. Thanks everyone for your feedback. Yes, I agree, he must have sensed this time that such a banter would not be unwelcome. When I was sitting in the exam chair he first showed up at the door in his biking gear, having just come in "only for me." He was talking to me standing at the door and then moving on, and I asked him "won't you come in to stay with me?" I thought it was really innocent, but he took it and ran with it 😉

Besides, I have known him to be a flirt for three years, so I would have switched if it had bothered me. His high prices bother me more than his flirtatious demeanor.

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Anonymous wrote:A little creepy from a professional.

But honestly OP there is no shortage of men out there who will happily flirt and make you feel wanted, special and awesome. There is also no shortage of women who will do the same for your ex. But that doesn’t mean those men or women are actually any better at healthy relationships. Lots of people lay it on thick and enjoy the early flirting, you're amazing, no you’re amazing, life is just rainbows and sunshine and cuddles stage of dating.

OP here. I agree with everything you wrote. It's just that I haven't made the effort to find and meet up with other men who are looking for relationships. It is my fault. It took a random encounter like this to realize that I should pull myself together and put myself out more.

Mistakenly I thought that at my age chances of me finding a great catch without baggage are slim to none. If the dentist were younger and taller (he is an inch shorter, I am very tall), I would actually consider him.

It was also my fault that I considered myself to be undesirable, after having been treated by H with contempt for ten years. Low self-esteem.

After the recent mental switch I know that a middle-aged woman who is put-together, charming and confident will find her match.

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While I am glad that your dentist gave you the added boost to your self-esteem…..I personally find his chair side manner inherently creepy ➕ inappropriate.

His behavior would give me the “ick.” 🤮

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi, everybody
I know it's silly, but I just need to share how wonderful it was to be on the receiving end of flirtation this past week.

H and I are separated, and our teenage son lives with me. I am in my late forties, work from home and don't meet many people organically. Generally, I don't feel good about myself. In the recent years I gained 20 pounds. None of my pretty clothes fit.

Last week I was jolted out of my rut by my dentist pushing 70 who likely flirts with all of his female patients. He is in great shape, looks decades younger and is very dynamic. He lets it be known (probably to many women) that he is not married, has no kids, is financially very stable and is looking for a relationship.

He is very charming, and laid it on thick: He claimed that it was his day off but came in only for me because I am special. "Honey, move closer to me. Now it's just you and me. I'm going to go really slowly." I almost spit out his mirror and whatever instruments he had in my mouth, I had to laugh so hard.

He has treated me and my son for the past three years, was always slightly flirtatious, but never to this extent. He adores my son.

It was wonderful to be considered beautiful and desirable. It made me realize many things: that I wasted a decade of my best years catering to a husband who didn't want a relationship with me anymore, that I took a huge blow to my self-esteem by accepting not being desired by him, that I have so much more to give and that I deserve to be in a relationship with a good man who loves and appreciates me. I miss laying in bed with my arms wrapped around my partner.

For this I'm very grateful to my dentist. It made me commit to losing weight, dressing well every time I go out, and making an effort to meet more people. I am still on the fence about dating apps. In any case now I know that there is so much more out there
for me.

Are you hot? How big are your b00b$?

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Dentists are good at oral.

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This is cute, OP.

And made me think of the Brady Bunch episode where Marcia imagines she is going to marry her dentist!