Should I tell my half sister our brother died?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds fake, because you should know that all relatives and friends of the deceased MUST be notified. That's part of the last duty you have to the deceased. You don't know what was going on in her life that she didn't reply to you, but she will certainly be pained if you do not tell her that her half-brother died!

My God. Have some basic decency.

You’re not required to notify anyone of any death short of there being a will or having some professional duty to.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds fake, because you should know that all relatives and friends of the deceased MUST be notified. That's part of the last duty you have to the deceased. You don't know what was going on in her life that she didn't reply to you, but she will certainly be pained if you do not tell her that her half-brother died!

My God. Have some basic decency.

You’re not required to notify anyone of any death short of there being a will or having some professional duty to.

MORALLY, you should. And that's all that matters.

[Anonymous]

Very sorry about your brother, OP.

[Anonymous]

Is it that hard to text her?

[Anonymous]

Why not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds fake, because you should know that all relatives and friends of the deceased MUST be notified. That's part of the last duty you have to the deceased. You don't know what was going on in her life that she didn't reply to you, but she will certainly be pained if you do not tell her that her half-brother died!

My God. Have some basic decency.

You’re not required to notify anyone of any death short of there being a will or having some professional duty to.

MORALLY, you should. And that's all that matters.

+1 Morally, you should sell your house, move into a tiny apartment and give all your money to starving children. Morals are subjective. OP doesn't need to do anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why not?

OP here. The reason I didn’t immediately let her know is because I had tried communicating with the her about his condition and got no response back and have heard nothing from her since.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry for your loss. Yes, I would let her know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not?

OP here. The reason I didn’t immediately let her know is because I had tried communicating with the her about his condition and got no response back and have heard nothing from her since.

That's pretty cold. But if you think there's even a 5% chance that she might have overlooked the initial text about his condition, you can send a quick text saying that your brother has passed.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry for your loss OP. I would send her a message with no expectation of a response. “Susan, just reaching out to let you know that Carl died of his injuries. I thought you might want to know. If you are interested, we are having a service on X date.” Or, “if you are ever wanting to know, he is buried at XYZ location” if the service already took place. And then close the phone and don’t expect her to respond. Or know that she might respond with something not satisfactory, like”ok, thanks”. She is likely fighting her own demons regarding her/ your dad and it’s not your fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds fake, because you should know that all relatives and friends of the deceased MUST be notified. That's part of the last duty you have to the deceased. You don't know what was going on in her life that she didn't reply to you, but she will certainly be pained if you do not tell her that her half-brother died!

My God. Have some basic decency.

You’re not required to notify anyone of any death short of there being a will or having some professional duty to.

+1. That's what obits are for.

[Anonymous]

Yes, just send a text. Whatever is easiest for you. I’m sorry for your loss.

[Anonymous]

I’d tell her next time she reaches out. It’s been months, I don’t see the point now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My brother was in a really bad accident and was hospitalized for severe injuries. We have a half sister from my father’s first marriage who is older than I am, I didn’t grow up with her in the home and we are not close. She had reached out a few months prior to this incident and we talked for the first time in some years since my mother had died and she had a good conversation where she expressed an interest in being closer. There was no fall out, there just was no real relationship prior. I had called her and let her know what happened as she had some professional experience with what was going on with his condition post accident. We talked and then I tried updating her about his condition but never heard from her again after texting/calling once. This was about 3 months ago. A month after I tried getting back in contact with her he died of complications from the accident. He was fairly young to die (31). Would you say anything or just leave it be?

She contacted you out of curiosity and as you said you don’t have a prior relationship. She probably expected a slow and less emotional path to potentially build a relationship. Your next contact point with her was contacting her with a very serious issue. She was probably feeling very awkward and uncomfortable with figuring out how to support you on the phone. She’s in a weird place with a stranger on the phone looking for advice on a serious issue. Disconnecting may have been the easiest path.