Would this be a dealbreaker for you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is how he deals with minor relationship stress. How is he going to deal with big issues? Someone gets sick? Someone loses their job? Someone gets into a car accident?

A man who can't control his emotions is a major red flag, and a potential danger to any intimate partner.

And btw, it doesn't matter who is wrong, how you handle conflict is a very important skill. Him being single with no kids at 40 likely means he hasn't learn these very basic things and no one else wants him.

+100

Even if he is dealing with extended family and work things now, things will only get more complicated with marriage (and potentially kids). Work and extended family things don’t decrease (they go waves).

Move on. He’s not emotionally mature enough for a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This would be a total dealbreaker for me

Same. Your only have to say that to me once.

[Anonymous]

Omg really op? Deal breaker and you KNOW this.

[Anonymous]

I kind of would wonder what the two big fights are about before answering

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I kind of would wonder what the two big fights are about before answering

Oh man, that posted too quickly.

I would want to know what the two fights were about before answering. It sounds like it might’ve been something really big that took him some time to work out.

However, Weeks of being on eggshells is not the way to go either I would say probably a dealbreaker, but context is definitely needed

[Anonymous]

It would be a dealbreaker for me because it would make me feel insecure in our overall relationship.

Because I would be afraid of angering him and thus might keep some of my feelings inside rather than discussing them w/him out of fear that I would lose him.

[Anonymous]

He can break up at the drop of a hat. You are 39. Do the math