BF extremely quiet during sex

Anonymous
My wife is the opposite - she screams her lungs out every time we have sex, starting in college when we began dating and continuing today. it cuts into the time when we can have sex, because we basically need an empty house, but I love it!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:New BF is extremely quiet during intimacy. Zero talk, dirty talk, grunting, moaning, asking how I’m doing, anything. Is this normal for men? I thought men were typically much more engaged than this?

Men are typically more engaged than this. You picked the wrong guy.
Anonymous
Mine is too. I'm not especially loud myself, so it's no biggie. It's helpful when we're at his beach house and there are people in the next room. After almost a year, I'm better at gauging where we're at in the process.
Anonymous
It’s an easy skill to teach/learn.
Anonymous
I’m the OP of the other BF sex thread and same here. He’s just….silent and lays there.

We’ve tried talking about it, I’ve tried telling him explicitly what to say, and he just goes “huh?”

So yea, I guess some men are just like this. Or it’s me and he’s not attracted to me. It’s sooooo weird.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP of the other BF sex thread and same here. He’s just….silent and lays there.

We’ve tried talking about it, I’ve tried telling him explicitly what to say, and he just goes “huh?”

So yea, I guess some men are just like this. Or it’s me and he’s not attracted to me. It’s sooooo weird.


So many men are trained not to make a noise while they did their business at night trying not to wake their parents. I think it would take some encouragement. Try talking to them during in a way that illicit them needing to respond. Encourage them to moan ect.
Anonymous
Give him some time. If he likes it he’ll be more vocal.

Are you vocal? If so, he’ll probably grow more vocal over time.
Anonymous
BF sounds like my ideal sex partner. Too bad I am married.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:New BF is extremely quiet during intimacy. Zero talk, dirty talk, grunting, moaning, asking how I’m doing, anything. Is this normal for men? I thought men were typically much more engaged than this?

Men are typically more engaged than this. You picked the wrong guy.


Nope, it’s her skills that fall short.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:New BF is extremely quiet during intimacy. Zero talk, dirty talk, grunting, moaning, asking how I’m doing, anything. Is this normal for men? I thought men were typically much more engaged than this?

Men are typically more engaged than this. You picked the wrong guy.


+1. I had a bf like this. Handsome, fit and...boring as heck with his silent sex. I dropped him and married DH, who has a lot to say, lol.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Give him some time. If he likes it he’ll be more vocal.

Are you vocal? If so, he’ll probably grow more vocal over time.


DP. Not necessarily. Some guys are just quiet by nature.
Anonymous
He’s thinking about baseball, trying to last longer. This doesn’t work as well now with the pitch clock.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:New BF is extremely quiet during intimacy. Zero talk, dirty talk, grunting, moaning, asking how I’m doing, anything. Is this normal for men? I thought men were typically much more engaged than this?


He is not that into you. He’s telling you that by being silent during sex. Why is it hard for you to understand?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:New BF is extremely quiet during intimacy. Zero talk, dirty talk, grunting, moaning, asking how I’m doing, anything. Is this normal for men? I thought men were typically much more engaged than this?


He is not that into you. He’s telling you that by being silent during sex. Why is it hard for you to understand?


Because he doesn't express himself well? Lol
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:New BF is extremely quiet during intimacy. Zero talk, dirty talk, grunting, moaning, asking how I’m doing, anything. Is this normal for men? I thought men were typically much more engaged than this?

Men are typically more engaged than this. You picked the wrong guy.


Nope, it’s her skills that fall short.


But he just keeps on coming...back for more. 😁
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