BF extremely quiet during sex

[Anonymous]

New BF is extremely quiet during intimacy. Zero talk, dirty talk, grunting, moaning, asking how I’m doing, anything. Is this normal for men? I thought men were typically much more engaged than this?

[Anonymous]

It doesn't matter if it's normal or not. If you don't like it talk to him about it. If it's a deal breaker for you , it's a deal breaker for you. Some of you are too immature to be on relationships

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New BF is extremely quiet during intimacy. Zero talk, dirty talk, grunting, moaning, asking how I’m doing, anything. Is this normal for men? I thought men were typically much more engaged than this?

Do you dislike it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:New BF is extremely quiet during intimacy. Zero talk, dirty talk, grunting, moaning, asking how I’m doing, anything. Is this normal for men? I thought men were typically much more engaged than this?

Do you dislike it?

OP here. I find it weird. Don’t think I like it.

[Anonymous]

Normal. Just means he learned to get off quietly when he was younger. If you like him and prefer something different, let him know and give him time to adjust to your feedback. If not, it’s fine to move on. It’s a small thing compared to real relationship breakers

[Anonymous]

It's normal. Better than performative sound tracks imo.
But if you don't like it, move on. Don't make him perform for you. That will break you up anyway.

DH and I are both quiet.

[Anonymous]

This may be hard to hear, but if you can’t make a guy moan, you’re doing it wrong.

[Anonymous]

My husband was like this when we first met. He had experienced sexual trauma in his prior relationship. He sure ain't quiet now.

[Anonymous]

I have to remind my long-time boyfriend periodically that some feedback would be nice. His default is pretty quiet-- some heavy breathing at most. He knows we have this little mismatch, and he's willing to adjust. We communicate well, which is really important for sex stuff.

Have you said anything to your BF?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This may be hard to hear, but if you can’t make a guy moan, you’re doing it wrong.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This may be hard to hear, but if you can’t make a guy moan, you’re doing it wrong.

Ignore this cow. Men are not all the same. Shocking, I know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Normal. Just means he learned to get off quietly when he was younger. If you like him and prefer something different, let him know and give him time to adjust to your feedback. If not, it’s fine to move on. It’s a small thing compared to real relationship breakers

It could be a former girlfriend conditioned him that way.

Or maybe he had a college roommate and had to learn to do it super-quiet like that.

You can re-train him OP.

[Anonymous]

If his silence is a deal breaker - move on.
He’s not going to change for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This may be hard to hear, but if you can’t make a guy moan, you’re doing it wrong.

Not true at all. There are male starfish as well.

[Anonymous]

Silent cheek clappers are boring unless they do other things to make up for it imo.