DD 15 is a bit of an oversharer

[Anonymous]

Well be sure she knows that oversharing thresholds vary and parents are one thing, but those outside the family are another.
Pimple on labia, poopy panties, masturbation, getting felt up...tactful sharing unless seeking help.

[Anonymous]

There is just no shame in society anymore, and therefore no discretion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I swear there is a troll or 10 here that just loves starting these types of threads with basically no info and these big questions. It's sad how many people in the DMV have so much time yet do so little that is worthwhile...

OP here. I chose to not go into detail about my daughter's over-sharing in order to protect her privacy. "How do I teach my daughter to not share overly personal factoids" isn't really a "big question". So no, not a troll, but thanks for asking, I guess?

DP but I'm confused about what sort of overly personal things a 15 year old would be sharing with her parents. Like is she talking to dad about masturbation? Or are you a very conservative family and don't want dad to know that she gets her period?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I swear there is a troll or 10 here that just loves starting these types of threads with basically no info and these big questions. It's sad how many people in the DMV have so much time yet do so little that is worthwhile...

OP here. I chose to not go into detail about my daughter's over-sharing in order to protect her privacy. "How do I teach my daughter to not share overly personal factoids" isn't really a "big question". So no, not a troll, but thanks for asking, I guess?

DP but I'm confused about what sort of overly personal things a 15 year old would be sharing with her parents. Like is she talking to dad about masturbation? Or are you a very conservative family and don't want dad to know that she gets her period?

Many have asked OP but OP doesn't seem interested in any real feedback or advice, since they haven't given anyone enough details to give real advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, your issue is that she's oversharing with YOU? And your husband? IE, her parents?

I'm really coming up totally empty on what my kid could tell me that I'd say was oversharing. Unless it's like gross, like "this is what my poop looked like this morning!" or something, but then you just say "ew, I don't want to hear about your poop!"

Or like, sexual fantasies? Again, "ewwww I don't want to hear about that!"

I'm literally struggling to come up with even a single thing my kid could tell me that I would think was oversharing that wasn't answerable with "ewwwwww"

Disagree. Telling me about her poop could have medical implications. Not gross. But then again I’m a doctor so this is just normal conversation imo. A 15 yo being told she overshares to her parents- well you as parent are being a bad parent and your kid will need therapy one day. Sheesh!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I swear there is a troll or 10 here that just loves starting these types of threads with basically no info and these big questions. It's sad how many people in the DMV have so much time yet do so little that is worthwhile...

OP here. I chose to not go into detail about my daughter's over-sharing in order to protect her privacy. "How do I teach my daughter to not share overly personal factoids" isn't really a "big question". So no, not a troll, but thanks for asking, I guess?

There’s a difference between sharing friend drama vs her period symptoms or BOB preferences. Dont be obtuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, your issue is that she's oversharing with YOU? And your husband? IE, her parents?

I'm really coming up totally empty on what my kid could tell me that I'd say was oversharing. Unless it's like gross, like "this is what my poop looked like this morning!" or something, but then you just say "ew, I don't want to hear about your poop!"

Or like, sexual fantasies? Again, "ewwww I don't want to hear about that!"

I'm literally struggling to come up with even a single thing my kid could tell me that I would think was oversharing that wasn't answerable with "ewwwwww"

Disagree. Telling me about her poop could have medical implications. Not gross. But then again I’m a doctor so this is just normal conversation imo. A 15 yo being told she overshares to her parents- well you as parent are being a bad parent and your kid will need therapy one day. Sheesh!

Haha I’m the PP - that’s a very doctor response. When I said “what my poop looked like” I was thinking like Rorschach test look like. Like “it looked like a big train! Haha!” Or like “it had so much corn in it!” Those get an “eewww.” Obviously if there was a medical concern that would be different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I swear there is a troll or 10 here that just loves starting these types of threads with basically no info and these big questions. It's sad how many people in the DMV have so much time yet do so little that is worthwhile...

OP here. I chose to not go into detail about my daughter's over-sharing in order to protect her privacy. "How do I teach my daughter to not share overly personal factoids" isn't really a "big question". So no, not a troll, but thanks for asking, I guess?

There’s a difference between sharing friend drama vs her period symptoms or BOB preferences. Dont be obtuse.

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Agree with everyone that you are being ridiculous, OP. If you are not a troll, you absolutely deserve being accused of being one.

My DD14 tells me everything. I joke that the moment the car door slams, she says "So in first period...." and does. not. stop. until she's through her club meetings and sports. Then she tells me about additional teen, tiktok, etc. drama. Then basically every thought that enters her head about everything and everybody. It can be tedious. Sometimes I have to take a work call or interact with my other child. But it is not oversharing. She's not telling me anything inappropriate nor does she have anything inappropriate to tell.

So WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT? You don't have to give explicit details but no indication of the topic is suspect.

[Anonymous]

Let’s assume the OP is not a troll. Is your DD is discussing personal stuff at the dinner table with extended family or with you alone in the car? If it’s at the family dinner table, she needs a conversation on being appropriate. Conversations are not off limits, but need to private.

[Anonymous]

Was she recounting a recent BJ she gave?

Did she tell you how embarrassed she was to get her period during math class?

Or that Billy Bob got busted by his parents for having a fake ID?

Any of these could be perceived as oversharing…depending on the audience but obviously only one is taboo. Especially at the Thanksgiving table.

So which category OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I swear there is a troll or 10 here that just loves starting these types of threads with basically no info and these big questions. It's sad how many people in the DMV have so much time yet do so little that is worthwhile...

OP here. I chose to not go into detail about my daughter's over-sharing in order to protect her privacy. "How do I teach my daughter to not share overly personal factoids" isn't really a "big question". So no, not a troll, but thanks for asking, I guess?

There’s a difference between sharing friend drama vs her period symptoms or BOB preferences. Dont be obtuse.

+1000
Agree with everyone that you are being ridiculous, OP. If you are not a troll, you absolutely deserve being accused of being one.

My DD14 tells me everything. I joke that the moment the car door slams, she says "So in first period...." and does. not. stop. until she's through her club meetings and sports. Then she tells me about additional teen, tiktok, etc. drama. Then basically every thought that enters her head about everything and everybody. It can be tedious. Sometimes I have to take a work call or interact with my other child. But it is not oversharing. She's not telling me anything inappropriate nor does she have anything inappropriate to tell.

So WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT? You don't have to give explicit details but no indication of the topic is suspect.

OP is ghosting us. In other words, definite troll.

That said, PP kudos, whatever's happening in your family, you are really lucky. Many of us can't get our kids to talk about their days in detail at all, all we get unless we ask more specific questions is "It was fine" and that's it. And some still don't get more details even when they do ask specific questions. I can understand your DD may get a bit tiresome to listen to every thought that crosses her mind, but seriously, enjoy it. Most in this Tween/Teen forum have the opposite problem and it's a lot harder to solve.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I swear there is a troll or 10 here that just loves starting these types of threads with basically no info and these big questions. It's sad how many people in the DMV have so much time yet do so little that is worthwhile...

OP here. I chose to not go into detail about my daughter's over-sharing in order to protect her privacy. "How do I teach my daughter to not share overly personal factoids" isn't really a "big question". So no, not a troll, but thanks for asking, I guess?

There’s a difference between sharing friend drama vs her period symptoms or BOB preferences. Dont be obtuse.

+1000
Agree with everyone that you are being ridiculous, OP. If you are not a troll, you absolutely deserve being accused of being one.

My DD14 tells me everything. I joke that the moment the car door slams, she says "So in first period...." and does. not. stop. until she's through her club meetings and sports. Then she tells me about additional teen, tiktok, etc. drama. Then basically every thought that enters her head about everything and everybody. It can be tedious. Sometimes I have to take a work call or interact with my other child. But it is not oversharing. She's not telling me anything inappropriate nor does she have anything inappropriate to tell.

So WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT? You don't have to give explicit details but no indication of the topic is suspect.

OP is ghosting us. In other words, definite troll.

That said, PP kudos, whatever's happening in your family, you are really lucky. Many of us can't get our kids to talk about their days in detail at all, all we get unless we ask more specific questions is "It was fine" and that's it. And some still don't get more details even when they do ask specific questions. I can understand your DD may get a bit tiresome to listen to every thought that crosses her mind, but seriously, enjoy it. Most in this Tween/Teen forum have the opposite problem and it's a lot harder to solve.

Not a troll, as previously mentioned. I just have other things in my life that need attending to. I wasn't aware that having a life outside of this website would considered unusual.

And yes, I realize oversharing isn't the worst thing my child could possibly do, it's not like she's into the drugs! It's just . . . inconvenient at times. And disturbing. That's all!

Once again: NOT. A. TROLL.

[Anonymous]

OP, you said you want to protect your daughter’s privacy, but you have posted anonymously! You realize that people are not going to be able to connect any dots and trace it back to your actual child, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you said you want to protect your daughter’s privacy, but you have posted anonymously! You realize that people are not going to be able to connect any dots and trace it back to your actual child, right?

+1 How would anyone else know what your child is sharing with you?

[Anonymous]

Inconvenient and disturbing are polar opposites, OP.