DD 15 is a bit of an oversharer
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Anonymous
| DD 15 is very open with DH and I. We would be thrilled about this, but it's gotten to a point that we don't know if she really understands how some things should be private. This sort of reached a boiling point last night and I'm a little worried. How can we encourage to be an open book while also being slightly less open about some stuff? |
Anonymous
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what is she being open about that makes you uncomfortable?
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Anonymous
| My daughter was in this exact situation. My advice is to simply tune her out when she overshares until she gets the memo. |
Anonymous
+1, not a lot of info here to work with |
Anonymous
| I swear there is a troll or 10 here that just loves starting these types of threads with basically no info and these big questions. It's sad how many people in the DMV have so much time yet do so little that is worthwhile... |
Anonymous
We are not all from the DMV - it's a very popular anonymous site with thousands of posts per day. |
Anonymous
OP here. I chose to not go into detail about my daughter's over-sharing in order to protect her privacy. "How do I teach my daughter to not share overly personal factoids" isn't really a "big question". So no, not a troll, but thanks for asking, I guess? |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| I'm trying to think about what my 15-year-old could possibly tell me that I'd consider oversharing. I can't think of anything. I want my teens to be able to tell me everything. OP, is the problem that you are worried your child is oversharing with other people? |
Anonymous
| You need to provide some more information about the oversharing. Change some details if you're worried about anonymity. |
Anonymous
Ok, here, I fixed it:
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Anonymous
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Wait, your issue is that she's oversharing with YOU? And your husband? IE, her parents?
I'm really coming up totally empty on what my kid could tell me that I'd say was oversharing. Unless it's like gross, like "this is what my poop looked like this morning!" or something, but then you just say "ew, I don't want to hear about your poop!" Or like, sexual fantasies? Again, "ewwww I don't want to hear about that!" I'm literally struggling to come up with even a single thing my kid could tell me that I would think was oversharing that wasn't answerable with "ewwwwww" |
Anonymous
The only way to give you helpful advice is to know what you consider "overly personal factoids". Some parents get squeamish with their DD just asking questions or talking about her period, while others welcome the questions and are happy to point her to whatever she needs. As you may have noticed on DCUM, there is a wide wide range of folks here. Without knowing what you even consider oversharing, hard to be helpful. Also hard to be helpful when no one knows if you've even done the most basic "Talk directly to your DD, tell her your concerns and why you're concerned". Lots of folks here who are terrified of having basic honest conversations. So this seems like trolling without more info, because no idea what you've already tried and what you consider too much sharing. |
Anonymous
| NP---my 18 yr old has this issue. I love that she shares with me and her dad. Everything she shares with us does not need to be brought up at Thanksgiving dinner with extended family. |
Anonymous
The world is big, but yes there are a lot of dumb posts on the internet. Not sure why this bothers you so much |