How to talk to dd about friend who constantly baits her ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell her, not in connection with naming this girl specifically, but tell her about the evils of gossiping, how people can report what you said, feelings get hurt, etc. And this includes listening to or reacting to gossip, not just stating gossip yourself.

Stress to her that it’s best to keep things positive or neutral. And if someone is fishing around for gossip, then you need to be especially on your guard. Safest is to never say something about someone that you wouldn’t say to their face. Being two-faced is not being our best selves.

+1. Some version of this, not in connection with the friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Girls, stop gossiping. Gabi, stop pumping Larla for gossip."

Personally I would not do this in front of the other girl. If anything I would gently mention to your daugher what you've seen and ask her what she thinks...offering your advice if she seems amenable.

Yeah, I'm just very direct and don't care that much about managing people's feelings.

+1 for the direct approach, especially if you have a kid who is either oblivious to what is going on or might need the words/confidence to get this girl to stop. Say it kindly, but firmly and in the moment you hear it so next time she can do it herself.

[Anonymous]

You could offer her a bowl of milk since you overheard her being catty.