Can we talk about clitoral atrophy?

[Anonymous]

CBD lube a little bit before sexy time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes girl use it or lose it!

not helpful. not funny

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:are you on an SSRI?

Op here, I am not. I still get regular periods and my FSH level was recently measured at something like 3.2, but I have recently gotten my first UTI, and noticed increased urinary urgency. So I think that plus the orgasm issue probably adds up to perimenopause symptoms. I do have an appointment with my doctor in a couple of weeks but I'm feeling pretty frustrated in the meantime. I know how important my orgasms are to my new partner and I don't want to start the relationship off with my own dysfunction getting in the way.

What’s the point of making it to age 50, starting over in dating, and ending up with a guy who isn’t realistic about the human body? I support all of your attempts to improve your sexual health. But for you. Not to hold on to some guy you barely know who doesn’t seem to get that he too will suffer from aging.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:are you on an SSRI?

Op here, I am not. I still get regular periods and my FSH level was recently measured at something like 3.2, but I have recently gotten my first UTI, and noticed increased urinary urgency. So I think that plus the orgasm issue probably adds up to perimenopause symptoms. I do have an appointment with my doctor in a couple of weeks but I'm feeling pretty frustrated in the meantime. I know how important my orgasms are to my new partner and I don't want to start the relationship off with my own dysfunction getting in the way.

What’s the point of making it to age 50, starting over in dating, and ending up with a guy who isn’t realistic about the human body? I support all of your attempts to improve your sexual health. But for you. Not to hold on to some guy you barely know who doesn’t seem to get that he too will suffer from aging.

This. Maybe your orgasm challenges are connected to his attitudes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:are you on an SSRI?

Op here, I am not. I still get regular periods and my FSH level was recently measured at something like 3.2, but I have recently gotten my first UTI, and noticed increased urinary urgency. So I think that plus the orgasm issue probably adds up to perimenopause symptoms. I do have an appointment with my doctor in a couple of weeks but I'm feeling pretty frustrated in the meantime. I know how important my orgasms are to my new partner and I don't want to start the relationship off with my own dysfunction getting in the way.

What’s the point of making it to age 50, starting over in dating, and ending up with a guy who isn’t realistic about the human body? I support all of your attempts to improve your sexual health. But for you. Not to hold on to some guy you barely know who doesn’t seem to get that he too will suffer from aging.

OP here - this post is coming from my own concerns, not from anything my partner has said or done. The relationship is very intimate and if I talk to him about this he will understand. I recently bought a lemon vibrator and he's interested in bringing it into bed with us.

[Anonymous]

Op - your comment that you’re 50 but still getting regular periods, but you’ve had a few symptoms here and there so you must be in perimenopause….

YES you are in perimenopause. You are 50. Just because you’re getting regular periods doesn’t mean you’re hormone levels are what they were when you were younger . You have probably been having symptoms for a while that you didn’t know were due to perimenopause.
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There is no way around it, you need vaginal estrogen. It will help your sexual symptoms and also your UTI and any bladder issues you’re having. You might benefit from systematic HRT, but that is a conversation for another day.

[Anonymous]

It's normal and eventually you all just won't have sex anymore. That's growing old for you.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I have found it is more difficult to orgasm now. I'm on HRT as well as using the vaginal estrogen. It isn't anything my husband is or isn't doing. In general, I need a vibrator to orgasm now whereas in the past, I could orgasm in a variety of ways. It is what it is now.

[Anonymous]

Eventually even self pleasure with a vibrator will not feel very good even with vag estrogen and then orgasms will bring pain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:are you on an SSRI?

Op here, I am not. I still get regular periods and my FSH level was recently measured at something like 3.2, but I have recently gotten my first UTI, and noticed increased urinary urgency. So I think that plus the orgasm issue probably adds up to perimenopause symptoms. I do have an appointment with my doctor in a couple of weeks but I'm feeling pretty frustrated in the meantime. I know how important my orgasms are to my new partner and I don't want to start the relationship off with my own dysfunction getting in the way.

What’s the point of making it to age 50, starting over in dating, and ending up with a guy who isn’t realistic about the human body? I support all of your attempts to improve your sexual health. But for you. Not to hold on to some guy you barely know who doesn’t seem to get that he too will suffer from aging.

OP here - this post is coming from my own concerns, not from anything my partner has said or done. The relationship is very intimate and if I talk to him about this he will understand. I recently bought a lemon vibrator and he's interested in bringing it into bed with us.

How is the lemon? Does it live up to the hype?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eventually even self pleasure with a vibrator will not feel very good even with vag estrogen and then orgasms will bring pain.

True for you. Not necessarily true for anyone else - certainly not for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eventually even self pleasure with a vibrator will not feel very good even with vag estrogen and then orgasms will bring pain.

True for you. Not necessarily true for anyone else - certainly not for me.

Nor is it true for me, in my 80s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes girl use it or lose it!

not helpful. not funny

Where is the lie

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I have found it is more difficult to orgasm now. I'm on HRT as well as using the vaginal estrogen. It isn't anything my husband is or isn't doing. In general, I need a vibrator to orgasm now whereas in the past, I could orgasm in a variety of ways. It is what it is now.

I think this is so true and it’s not just personal experience. Somebody over in the “relationships” form started a pole about whether the big “O” is more difficult for those of us over 50.

And almost everybody agreed it’s more difficult now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eventually even self pleasure with a vibrator will not feel very good even with vag estrogen and then orgasms will bring pain.

True for me. Big difference in sensitivity and being able to come. It happened within 3 months. It's fine. I had a good run.