Do you check your kid's portal?

[Anonymous]

There is a site where you can see your kids' application status, whether it's complete or something is missing. You don't have to log on to the individual portals for status check.

Best of all, allegedly you can see if an applicant is rejected early on in the process. For example, if the status says "decided" after a mere one week. The applicant may have been auto-rejected (GPA too low, SAT too low, etc) without committee review.

[Anonymous]

When I applied (2022), my parents didn't even know what portal is used for college apps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Spoke to a mom who told me that she regularly checks her kid's portal to make sure all materials are in. I asked if her kid ever checks it and she said her kid doesn't even know the passwords. The mom seemed pretty proud of herself for helping her DC navigate the application process. Is it common for parents to be this involved and kids uninvolved? Seems a bit much to me.

Um. No. What a weirdo.

[Anonymous]

He's not applying yet but when he does, I will check. He has ADHD and executive functioning issues. I won't do the applications for him, but I will do them with him and give him reminders as needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a site where you can see your kids' application status, whether it's complete or something is missing. You don't have to log on to the individual portals for status check.

Best of all, allegedly you can see if an applicant is rejected early on in the process. For example, if the status says "decided" after a mere one week. The applicant may have been auto-rejected (GPA too low, SAT too low, etc) without committee review.

What site? Common app?

[Anonymous]

There's a middle ground. Not everything has to be one extreme or another. Probably once a month a detail -something- is on my mind which is easily put to rest if DS and I sit down together and he provides me with an update.

[Anonymous]

Both of mine handled it all. If they are ready for college, they should be able to manage an application.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a site where you can see your kids' application status, whether it's complete or something is missing. You don't have to log on to the individual portals for status check.

Best of all, allegedly you can see if an applicant is rejected early on in the process. For example, if the status says "decided" after a mere one week. The applicant may have been auto-rejected (GPA too low, SAT too low, etc) without committee review.

What site? Common app?

No. Common App doesn’t show much.

start.edu

This is where AOs spend their time on. Do a search on reddit, there are discussions on this topic.

[Anonymous]

Yes checked Common App before the first round of apps were submitted to review for typos and overall completeness. ECs had some gaps so those were fixed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your kid doesn’t have ADHD, congrats to you. Some of us are trying to help our kids apply to college or else they might not even go. And maybe they’ll fail out once they’re there. I hope you are extra smug when we have to tell you about that.

My kid has ADHD inattentive type and exec functioning disorder. I also do not check his portals or have his passwords.
I do however, remind him to check them and his emails, which he is terrible about. But he does eventually do it.
I don't think that doing it for him would be helpful to him in the long run. He'll fall flat on his face in college next year if he doesn't learn how to manage things (at least somewhat) himself. That said, it'll be a miracle if he learns to wake up on his own with an alarm clock.

[Anonymous]

No. I don’t even know their passwords. But I do regularly remind them to check.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your kid doesn’t have ADHD, congrats to you. Some of us are trying to help our kids apply to college or else they might not even go. And maybe they’ll fail out once they’re there. I hope you are extra smug when we have to tell you about that.

My kid has ADHD inattentive type and exec functioning disorder. I also do not check his portals or have his passwords.
I do however, remind him to check them and his emails, which he is terrible about. But he does eventually do it.
I don't think that doing it for him would be helpful to him in the long run. He'll fall flat on his face in college next year if he doesn't learn how to manage things (at least somewhat) himself. That said, it'll be a miracle if he learns to wake up on his own with an alarm clock.

I agree, you shouldn’t do so much for him. Reminders, absolutely. But logging in on his behalf and doing the application? No. If he’s not ready to even apply to a 4 year college then doing it for him isn’t going to help him succeed once he gets there. Maybe a gap year or a year or two at community college would be better than you holding his hand so much that he can’t do much on his own—your unintentionally setting him up to fail. His self esteem might also be harmed. No shame in doing a different path than the “norm,” especially if he has such severe adhd that he can’t handle such a big task. I bet he’ll do great when he finds his path! But he may do better if you let him lead the way more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your kid doesn’t have ADHD, congrats to you. Some of us are trying to help our kids apply to college or else they might not even go. And maybe they’ll fail out once they’re there. I hope you are extra smug when we have to tell you about that.

My kid has ADHD inattentive type and exec functioning disorder. I also do not check his portals or have his passwords.
I do however, remind him to check them and his emails, which he is terrible about. But he does eventually do it.
I don't think that doing it for him would be helpful to him in the long run. He'll fall flat on his face in college next year if he doesn't learn how to manage things (at least somewhat) himself. That said, it'll be a miracle if he learns to wake up on his own with an alarm clock.

I agree, you shouldn’t do so much for him. Reminders, absolutely. But logging in on his behalf and doing the application? No. If he’s not ready to even apply to a 4 year college then doing it for him isn’t going to help him succeed once he gets there. Maybe a gap year or a year or two at community college would be better than you holding his hand so much that he can’t do much on his own—your unintentionally setting him up to fail. His self esteem might also be harmed. No shame in doing a different path than the “norm,” especially if he has such severe adhd that he can’t handle such a big task. I bet he’ll do great when he finds his path! But he may do better if you let him lead the way more.

What's wrong with using an alarm clock? I didn't realize not using one was a badge of honor.

[Anonymous]

No portal or common app access. With my older son this didn’t worry me. With my younger 2 (twins) I so wish I did but I also know I need to being to remove my hands from the reins and manage things on their own. I do ask / check in from time to time and they did ask me to review essaays.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your kid doesn’t have ADHD, congrats to you. Some of us are trying to help our kids apply to college or else they might not even go. And maybe they’ll fail out once they’re there. I hope you are extra smug when we have to tell you about that.

My kid has ADHD inattentive type and exec functioning disorder. I also do not check his portals or have his passwords.
I do however, remind him to check them and his emails, which he is terrible about. But he does eventually do it.
I don't think that doing it for him would be helpful to him in the long run. He'll fall flat on his face in college next year if he doesn't learn how to manage things (at least somewhat) himself. That said, it'll be a miracle if he learns to wake up on his own with an alarm clock.

I agree, you shouldn’t do so much for him. Reminders, absolutely. But logging in on his behalf and doing the application? No. If he’s not ready to even apply to a 4 year college then doing it for him isn’t going to help him succeed once he gets there. Maybe a gap year or a year or two at community college would be better than you holding his hand so much that he can’t do much on his own—your unintentionally setting him up to fail. His self esteem might also be harmed. No shame in doing a different path than the “norm,” especially if he has such severe adhd that he can’t handle such a big task. I bet he’ll do great when he finds his path! But he may do better if you let him lead the way more.

What's wrong with using an alarm clock? I didn't realize not using one was a badge of honor.

I think you lost the plot. I was joking bc he's not able to wake up on his own, WITH an alarm clock.