DS friend wearing the same clothes for three days.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DS is 6 and his friend is one year younger and has autism. I’m very close with the mom and adore her dearly. I don’t know what’s going on and if she’s overwhelmed, but she’s always clean and well presented.

DS friend does have autism and it’s a bit of a fight but he relents eventually, I clipped his fingernails and toenails and put him in clean clothes on the third day. The clothes were visibly soiled.

What’s concerning is they’re asking for sleepovers, and I’m kind of concerned because my kid always go to bed after a bath and changes his clothes everyday. I don’t want to say anything to my friend but am gauging if anyone else lets their kid wear dirty clothes three days in a row? I feel bad.

If the child has autism, they may be very rigid about clothes and not willing to change them. It may not be her choice. Even if she buys multiple of the same outfit, I don't understand why you are clipping his toes and fingers and dealing with the clothing. This is super strange.

He's been at my house for 4+ hours/day since Friday, and he plays every day with my son. We've been doing kitchen crafts and baking, having lunch and playing and they've been jumping on the couch in the playroom. His fingernails and toenails were long and caked with dirt, it was a hygiene issue.

I hope you aren't serious. You should not be doing this without parents' permission. Kids should not be jumping on the couch. Supervise them instead of posting here. You sound just as bad.

I’m serious. Yes, they can jump on the couch in the playroom, it’s fine. It’s as old as the flood.

That's bad parenting as then your kid goes to houses like mine where its not allowed and then they aren't welcome back nor do we let our kids at yours. Focus on your parenting first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My youngest doesn’t like to change his clothes. He’s 10.
I will fight with him and make him do it on school days, and he has to shower Sunday, Tuesday, and Thursday. But I often don’t fight the fight on the weekends. It’s not worth it.

I would just let it go. Maybe your friend is overwhelmed, but realistically, what are you going to do about it?

A ten-year-old should be showering daily. This sounds fake.

[Anonymous]

Bathing 2 non related kids togethet?

Sleepover at age 6?

Smug and obtuse about autistic kids and clothing and hygiene battles.

Is this post for real? Copy abd pasted from Redditt and embellished I bet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My youngest doesn’t like to change his clothes. He’s 10.
I will fight with him and make him do it on school days, and he has to shower Sunday, Tuesday, and Thursday. But I often don’t fight the fight on the weekends. It’s not worth it.

I would just let it go. Maybe your friend is overwhelmed, but realistically, what are you going to do about it?

A ten-year-old should be showering daily. This sounds fake.

I don’t know what to tell you. Not every 10 year old showers daily.

[Anonymous]

I don’t get the sleepover issue. I do agree that they are young, but I don’t see why it’s a problem otherwise.

I have never had a kid bathe during a sleepover at my house. And I don’t remember doing it as a kid at other people’s houses either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Have him over, tell mom to send pajamas.
If no pajamas, get him your son’s extra set for the night. Make them take a bath together or separately. Wash the clothes and give them back to the boy in the morning.

Completely inappropriate to wash two kids together.

We did it with cousins of the same sex at about the same age.

[Anonymous]

The kid does not want to change his clothes. That's what it is. And the mom is picking her battles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bathing 2 non related kids togethet?

Sleepover at age 6?

Smug and obtuse about autistic kids and clothing and hygiene battles.

Is this post for real? Copy abd pasted from Redditt and embellished I bet.

It wasn’t op who suggested bathing together

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get the sleepover issue. I do agree that they are young, but I don’t see why it’s a problem otherwise.

I have never had a kid bathe during a sleepover at my house. And I don’t remember doing it as a kid at other people’s houses either.

I don’t think they or you wore the same clothes for 3 days though. I bet the boy is stinky

[Anonymous]

6 is really young for a sleepover.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have him over, tell mom to send pajamas.
If no pajamas, get him your son’s extra set for the night. Make them take a bath together or separately. Wash the clothes and give them back to the boy in the morning.

Completely inappropriate to wash two kids together.

We did it with cousins of the same sex at about the same age.

Not appropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My youngest doesn’t like to change his clothes. He’s 10.
I will fight with him and make him do it on school days, and he has to shower Sunday, Tuesday, and Thursday. But I often don’t fight the fight on the weekends. It’s not worth it.

I would just let it go. Maybe your friend is overwhelmed, but realistically, what are you going to do about it?

A ten-year-old should be showering daily. This sounds fake.

I don’t know what to tell you. Not every 10 year old showers daily.

I'm sure they don't but at 10 they need to start to get in the habit and using deoderant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have him over, tell mom to send pajamas.
If no pajamas, get him your son’s extra set for the night. Make them take a bath together or separately. Wash the clothes and give them back to the boy in the morning.

Completely inappropriate to wash two kids together.

Especially 2 unrelated kids. WTF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS is 6 and his friend is one year younger and has autism. I’m very close with the mom and adore her dearly. I don’t know what’s going on and if she’s overwhelmed, but she’s always clean and well presented.

DS friend does have autism and it’s a bit of a fight but he relents eventually, I clipped his fingernails and toenails and put him in clean clothes on the third day. The clothes were visibly soiled.

What’s concerning is they’re asking for sleepovers, and I’m kind of concerned because my kid always go to bed after a bath and changes his clothes everyday. I don’t want to say anything to my friend but am gauging if anyone else lets their kid wear dirty clothes three days in a row? I feel bad.

Just because they ask for sleepovers does not mean they get them. Just say no.

[Anonymous]

NP here. I don’t know about the autism part of not changing clothes. I would be concerned if one of my kids’ friends did not seem to be changing clothes for multiple days and dirty.