DH calling DW degrading names

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like to be called a sl*t or similar dirty talk when DH and I are having kinkier sex. I was actually the one who introduced him to that kind of sex. Maybe....a couple times a month. The rest is just normal sex and no names.

IRL, DH has never even uttered a mean word to me and has never raised his voice to me.

But, I can see why others wouldn't be into it or comfortable with it. I think it can depend also on how he treats you outside the bedroom.

How old are you? I wonder if it’s an age thing that women like as they’ve been with a man longer.

[Anonymous]

What does he call you? Melania? Marjorie? Kristi? Pam?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like to be called a sl*t or similar dirty talk when DH and I are having kinkier sex. I was actually the one who introduced him to that kind of sex. Maybe....a couple times a month. The rest is just normal sex and no names.

IRL, DH has never even uttered a mean word to me and has never raised his voice to me.

But, I can see why others wouldn't be into it or comfortable with it. I think it can depend also on how he treats you outside the bedroom.

How old are you? I wonder if it’s an age thing that women like as they’ve been with a man longer.

40. Been with DH for 15 years. But I liked that kind of sex even in college. It's more along the lines of a light dom/sub thing that I like (and would like DH to be even more dominant but we go with what he's comfortable with).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does he call you? Melania? Marjorie? Kristi? Pam?

Sl*t and wh*re.

[Anonymous]

What do you do when your H won’t call you the names you’d like? Mine can’t go any worse than “bad girl”, and even that’s rare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH gets turned on by calling me bad / degrading names in the bedroom. I think it’s OK but am guessing others wouldn’t like this. Is this common?

It's disturbing on a psychological level but fine if you don't feel degraded. Most men or women would find it offensive.

[Anonymous]

I think if my DH ever did that I would be completely turned off and no sex would happen.

[Anonymous]

I guess it depends iff you were exposed to it at a younger age ( observed in real life, read in stories, watched on screen, heard in explicit songs etc)and on psychological level feel like this is normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does he call you? Melania? Marjorie? Kristi? Pam?

Sl*t and wh*re.

That's exciting not degrading. He's celebrating your sexual availability.

Give it right back to him, the dirty jiggolo.

[Anonymous]

Many people are turned on by things in the bedroom that they would never do outside he bedroom. From physical restraint to kinks to role plays to name calling to dirty talk. Really anything can be fine as long as both people are on board.

It is odd to me that you didn't put "in the bedroom" in your title. It seems you are taking his comments personally versus enjoying them as part of your sex life. If they are bothering you or killing the mood or something you just aren't comfortable with, tell him.

[Anonymous]

What is really going on with that husband of yours...?? Turnoff. No Thanks. Ick

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does he call you? Melania? Marjorie? Kristi? Pam?

Sl*t and wh*re.

I would love to be called this but only in bed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does he call you? Melania? Marjorie? Kristi? Pam?

Sl*t and wh*re.

I would love to be called this but only in bed

Have you asked your DH to do so?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does he call you? Melania? Marjorie? Kristi? Pam?

Sl*t and wh*re.

I would love to be called this but only in bed

Have you asked your DH to do so?

I don’t have a husband right now. My ex did some of it but it wasn’t enough. I had a great BF Dom after divorce though, he went to a different direction and I still miss him can’t find anyone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are we talking “you sl_t you know you want it” or “take this you lousy b!t¢h”, because there’s definitely a difference there.

Honestly, I would not tolerate either of these. I don't care if talking to me like that is my partner's "yum". Hearing that just yucks my yum. If a BF did it, I would break up with them. If a DH did it, I would have a convo about it and try to agree on words I was comfortable with. I feel the same way about spanking or choking. They may be someone else's turn on, but they are not mine, and they have a big enough impact on my mentally that I don't want that kind of abusive language or behavior to be part of my life.

YMMV. But, it is OK to say no to this.