Freshman sleepover

[Anonymous]

OP here - my generally feeling is you don’t “know” the parents really for just meet with them for the first time. She’s against drinking and she’s been pretty honest about things. But again I don’t know these girls - I know kids sneak out at sleepover or doing thing they shouldn’t be doing without parents even knowing about it.

Not lazy. Happy to meet them or the girls but that doesn’t mean I know them based on 1 interaction. It’s not about trust. I was freshman I know what peer pressure can do to u. There are parents who buying alcohol for their kids to drink at home and honestly there’s no way to ask people you just meet on these sorta things. But also at the same time I understand she’s in HS and these things will happen.

I have my own friends and I do drive my kid an her friends often just so I can get to know them and put names to the faces. Sleepover is a different territory for many reasons.

[Anonymous]

OP again - I explained my feelings and leave the decision to her. She gave me the parents # and offered for me to meet them when I drop her off. She decided she wants to go and I said ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She’s in high school. Land the helicopter.

She’s under age in an age where republicans think it’s great to rape young girls This is a no go

What?! Most republicans do NOT rape young girls (and I'm super liberal).

DP. Also a liberal. Also don’t think most republicans are rapists (although they are just fine socializing with, working with, and making sure rapists important to their financial interests are not punished in any way).

[Anonymous]

There are a handful of girls from her class also going. Let her go. Sleepovers are fun. Don’t let her miss out because you are irrationally scared.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where is she on drinking? Is she telling you what you want to hear but getting drunk? Is she in the wild group? Or is she against drinking?

I'd probably allow it with the caveat that I bring her to the door and meet her parents and chat with them for a couple minutes.

It's a good idea to at least chat at the door to make sure a parent is going to be home. But I understand that at that point it's pretty awkward to back out of there a weird vibe

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again - I explained my feelings and leave the decision to her. She gave me the parents # and offered for me to meet them when I drop her off. She decided she wants to go and I said ok.

OP you got this!

Also, if your child is college bound - it’s gonna’ be the same deal.
Your child will be living w strangers in a dorm that you and dad don’t know.

[Anonymous]

I would not let my freshman daughter sleep at someone’s house I don’t know. I wouldn’t feel bad about it either. You can do pick up later that night.

[Anonymous]

Well start meeting them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not let my freshman daughter sleep at someone’s house I don’t know. I wouldn’t feel bad about it either. You can do pick up later that night.

Same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not let my freshman daughter sleep at someone’s house I don’t know. I wouldn’t feel bad about it either. You can do pick up later that night.

+1 this. In fact, we aren’t going to allow sleepovers in high school.

[Anonymous]

OP are you an AI bot? Or do you use voice to text?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not let my freshman daughter sleep at someone’s house I don’t know. I wouldn’t feel bad about it either. You can do pick up later that night.

+1 this. In fact, we aren’t going to allow sleepovers in high school.

Yeah, we stopped in middle school. I did a lot of sleepovers as a teen, but times are different.