Drama around MS girls group costume

[Anonymous]

Sorry this happened.

I’m still traumatized from when my high school group of friends all dressed alike. One of the other moms bought us the sweatshirts and she got all of them size small and without asking, got me an XL. I was humiliated. For the record I wore a size M at the time and that lady was an actual witch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm really curious about what happened. Spill the details so we can be prepared when my kid gets older.

they decided as a group that they would dress as famous figure skaters

but one stole another's ice skates (she actually is a skater) and wore them on pavement and ruined them

then mom was mad only one girl looked like a 'real' skater so she bought everyone skates and another mom was angry because she didn't want to reimburse for skates when her daughter is not an ice skater.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm really curious about what happened. Spill the details so we can be prepared when my kid gets older.

they decided as a group that they would dress as famous figure skaters

but one stole another's ice skates (she actually is a skater) and wore them on pavement and ruined them

then mom was mad only one girl looked like a 'real' skater so she bought everyone skates and another mom was angry because she didn't want to reimburse for skates when her daughter is not an ice skater.

I don't believe this. You can't walk around all night on skates. Its worse than wearing high heels.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm really curious about what happened. Spill the details so we can be prepared when my kid gets older.

they decided as a group that they would dress as famous figure skaters

but one stole another's ice skates (she actually is a skater) and wore them on pavement and ruined them

then mom was mad only one girl looked like a 'real' skater so she bought everyone skates and another mom was angry because she didn't want to reimburse for skates when her daughter is not an ice skater.

hard to believe one mom went out and purchased ice skates for a group of girls to wear around on the street/pavement

[Anonymous]

Here’s our story. My DD was planning to join 2 friends in a group costume and TOT in their neighborhood (parents were planning to potluck together). My DD asked if they could include friend #4 (who had no plans) and was told ‘no absolutely not’ by the girls AND one mom because they don’t like her. So my DD decided to go with girl #4 in our neighborhood. I received a follow up text from mean mom on Halloween to confirm that we would not be visiting their neighborhood that night, because she had heard from her daughter we were still planning to. The whole situation left me feeling disappointed, mostly in mean mom. I’m hoping this stuff gets better by high school!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm really curious about what happened. Spill the details so we can be prepared when my kid gets older.

they decided as a group that they would dress as famous figure skaters

but one stole another's ice skates (she actually is a skater) and wore them on pavement and ruined them

then mom was mad only one girl looked like a 'real' skater so she bought everyone skates and another mom was angry because she didn't want to reimburse for skates when her daughter is not an ice skater.

hard to believe one mom went out and purchased ice skates for a group of girls to wear around on the street/pavement

+1 I have a very cheap pair that i use for Free Skate with my kids and they were $60.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here’s our story. My DD was planning to join 2 friends in a group costume and TOT in their neighborhood (parents were planning to potluck together). My DD asked if they could include friend #4 (who had no plans) and was told ‘no absolutely not’ by the girls AND one mom because they don’t like her. So my DD decided to go with girl #4 in our neighborhood. I received a follow up text from mean mom on Halloween to confirm that we would not be visiting their neighborhood that night, because she had heard from her daughter we were still planning to. The whole situation left me feeling disappointed, mostly in mean mom. I’m hoping this stuff gets better by high school!

I'm sorry but your daughter is fault here. She made plans and reneged on them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here’s our story. My DD was planning to join 2 friends in a group costume and TOT in their neighborhood (parents were planning to potluck together). My DD asked if they could include friend #4 (who had no plans) and was told ‘no absolutely not’ by the girls AND one mom because they don’t like her. So my DD decided to go with girl #4 in our neighborhood. I received a follow up text from mean mom on Halloween to confirm that we would not be visiting their neighborhood that night, because she had heard from her daughter we were still planning to. The whole situation left me feeling disappointed, mostly in mean mom. I’m hoping this stuff gets better by high school!

I just don't understand. When did Halloween get so serious?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here’s our story. My DD was planning to join 2 friends in a group costume and TOT in their neighborhood (parents were planning to potluck together). My DD asked if they could include friend #4 (who had no plans) and was told ‘no absolutely not’ by the girls AND one mom because they don’t like her. So my DD decided to go with girl #4 in our neighborhood. I received a follow up text from mean mom on Halloween to confirm that we would not be visiting their neighborhood that night, because she had heard from her daughter we were still planning to. The whole situation left me feeling disappointed, mostly in mean mom. I’m hoping this stuff gets better by high school!

Your DD’s friends are terrible and so are the moms. Hope she has better friends in HS.

[Anonymous]

Wow. So many mean girls and their mean helicopter moms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s our story. My DD was planning to join 2 friends in a group costume and TOT in their neighborhood (parents were planning to potluck together). My DD asked if they could include friend #4 (who had no plans) and was told ‘no absolutely not’ by the girls AND one mom because they don’t like her. So my DD decided to go with girl #4 in our neighborhood. I received a follow up text from mean mom on Halloween to confirm that we would not be visiting their neighborhood that night, because she had heard from her daughter we were still planning to. The whole situation left me feeling disappointed, mostly in mean mom. I’m hoping this stuff gets better by high school!

I'm sorry but your daughter is fault here. She made plans and reneged on them.

NP. Disagree. Unless girl #4 has done something horrible to the other two girls, there is no reason not to include her. Sounds like girls 1 and 2 (and the mom) were too mean to do that, so the DD was kind. It's not like it's a random Saturday night; it's Halloween and it can be sad to be alone. Good on the DD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s our story. My DD was planning to join 2 friends in a group costume and TOT in their neighborhood (parents were planning to potluck together). My DD asked if they could include friend #4 (who had no plans) and was told ‘no absolutely not’ by the girls AND one mom because they don’t like her. So my DD decided to go with girl #4 in our neighborhood. I received a follow up text from mean mom on Halloween to confirm that we would not be visiting their neighborhood that night, because she had heard from her daughter we were still planning to. The whole situation left me feeling disappointed, mostly in mean mom. I’m hoping this stuff gets better by high school!

I'm sorry but your daughter is fault here. She made plans and reneged on them.

NP. Disagree. Unless girl #4 has done something horrible to the other two girls, there is no reason not to include her. Sounds like girls 1 and 2 (and the mom) were too mean to do that, so the DD was kind. It's not like it's a random Saturday night; it's Halloween and it can be sad to be alone. Good on the DD.

New-new poster and disagree. The girl tried to invitee a friend to someone else's house, and when the host wasn't comfortable she cancelled established plans. That's rude. A host has a right to decline extra guests no matter the reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s our story. My DD was planning to join 2 friends in a group costume and TOT in their neighborhood (parents were planning to potluck together). My DD asked if they could include friend #4 (who had no plans) and was told ‘no absolutely not’ by the girls AND one mom because they don’t like her. So my DD decided to go with girl #4 in our neighborhood. I received a follow up text from mean mom on Halloween to confirm that we would not be visiting their neighborhood that night, because she had heard from her daughter we were still planning to. The whole situation left me feeling disappointed, mostly in mean mom. I’m hoping this stuff gets better by high school!

I'm sorry but your daughter is fault here. She made plans and reneged on them.

NP. Disagree. Unless girl #4 has done something horrible to the other two girls, there is no reason not to include her. Sounds like girls 1 and 2 (and the mom) were too mean to do that, so the DD was kind. It's not like it's a random Saturday night; it's Halloween and it can be sad to be alone. Good on the DD.

New-new poster and disagree. The girl tried to invitee a friend to someone else's house, and when the host wasn't comfortable she cancelled established plans. That's rude. A host has a right to decline extra guests no matter the reason.

NP. That's not what I interpreted - looks like the parents were going to have a potluck but kids were going TOT in that neighborhood. The DD and girl could have joined that group and then girl 4 gone back while the rest had met up at that house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s our story. My DD was planning to join 2 friends in a group costume and TOT in their neighborhood (parents were planning to potluck together). My DD asked if they could include friend #4 (who had no plans) and was told ‘no absolutely not’ by the girls AND one mom because they don’t like her. So my DD decided to go with girl #4 in our neighborhood. I received a follow up text from mean mom on Halloween to confirm that we would not be visiting their neighborhood that night, because she had heard from her daughter we were still planning to. The whole situation left me feeling disappointed, mostly in mean mom. I’m hoping this stuff gets better by high school!

I'm sorry but your daughter is fault here. She made plans and reneged on them.

NP. Disagree. Unless girl #4 has done something horrible to the other two girls, there is no reason not to include her. Sounds like girls 1 and 2 (and the mom) were too mean to do that, so the DD was kind. It's not like it's a random Saturday night; it's Halloween and it can be sad to be alone. Good on the DD.

New-new poster and disagree. The girl tried to invitee a friend to someone else's house, and when the host wasn't comfortable she cancelled established plans. That's rude. A host has a right to decline extra guests no matter the reason.

NP. That's not what I interpreted - looks like the parents were going to have a potluck but kids were going TOT in that neighborhood. The DD and girl could have joined that group and then girl 4 gone back while the rest had met up at that house.

Well that would have been super awkward! My rules for my kids are "if you make plans, you keep them." You don't go chasing the next best thing.

[Anonymous]

Too many parents are way to invested in everything their kids do.