ROFR question

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not sure why it matters (I am not trying to be argumentative, rather, understand the logic). I work an hour or two from home sometimes and I travel for work, meaning I work out of other locations too. So it is travel/commuting but I am home that same day. I am really just trying to understand if kids being at school while one is at work should count or not. It seems to me that it would only count when you are actually using someone to provide care vs being on standby in the event school closes and care is needed. Does/should the proximity of your work to your home matter? Even on days when I work from home, if there is a sick kid or emergency, you might not be free to drop everything and get a kid and might need care. That is no different than when one is in the office.

30-45 minute commute is one thing, but if you're two hours away in one direction and I'm your co-parent, I'm going to start asking for ROFR for those days.

You need to talk to an attorney. This is a very specific situation and you're hoping it's going to work out in your favor and that's playing with fire.

Its pretty normal around here with traffic. A 30 minute commute can be two hours. You don't punish someone for that.

[Anonymous]

Assuming you wanted 50/50 custody and that’s why you have this arrangement I think it’s totally messed up you have a sitter on your days.
Irrelevant of the 6 hours if your spouse is available to parent after school and you’re not then let them. Don’t be a jerk about it.
Be a good person without having the courts mandate every fine detail.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s completely ridiculous to think that you have to offer ROFR for school days, but even if you did, wouldn’t it only last until 6 or whenever you are available?

[Anonymous]

I don't think ROFR applies during school hours-but I am not a lawyer. Maybe you could get that written into yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Assuming you wanted 50/50 custody and that’s why you have this arrangement I think it’s totally messed up you have a sitter on your days.
Irrelevant of the 6 hours if your spouse is available to parent after school and you’re not then let them. Don’t be a jerk about it.
Be a good person without having the courts mandate every fine detail.

An after school sitter? That’s totally normal.

[Anonymous]

Your ex-wife sounds like a nut job. Six hours starts after school gets out. Let her take you to court for that. I’d love to see what a judge would have to say.

Seriously for someone like this the best thing would be not to argue. Tell her calmly that you disagree with her interpretation and if she wants to go back to the court to let the judge decide when that six hours starts that would be fine. Any time she behaved like a nut just tell her you interpret whatever it is differently. She’s looking for conflict. But she really does sound crazy.