| OP here—yes my daughter and I discussed her options. She wants to terminate the pregnancy. |
DP again, just stop. OP is not asking on your views on abortion. She has communicated with her daughter and that’s all you need to know. OP the sooner you get this done, the better. |
She’s not asking yours either, just for the record. |
| Now. I had 2 natural miscarriages. One at 6 weeks and one at 10. The 10 weeks was terrible terrible, hurt a lot, what came out was identifiable as a curled up something. At 6 it was a lot of thick blood and the worst camping my life for 1/2 a day. Go now and assume 2-3 days of pain at minimum. Make sure she has counseling after and goes at least once a week for a while. |
+100 |
| The sooner the better. In her shoes, I would not wait weeks (during which she will likely be feeling pregnancy-related symptoms while attempting to take exams) to do this. I would do it this weekend. |
You’re absolutely right. Fly out there now and get it over with as soon as possible. |
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Unless Thanksgiving break is over a week she would not want to be flying back to college right after. Cramps, bleeding, pads... Do it now or at least this month and she will be ready to fly home easily.
Also, from experience I know any future sex is going to be far from her mind during the pain and aftermath. (Also not medically allowed for a while.) But whatever happened, talk to her about Plan B in case something unexpected ensues like unprotected sex, failure of method, forgotten pill. It's easy to get and can be tucked in a drawer. |
And I didn’t give one. But thanks! |
I had a miscarriage at six weeks and it was basically just a slightly heavy period for me. Obviously it will be different with medication but it shouldn't be too much worse than that. Sooner is definitely better. |
| Do it now. The sooner the better. |
I have actually used this to terminate a pregnancy. Do it as early as possible. Fly out now and do it asap. The longer you wait the harder it gets--emotionally too. Expediency is key. |
PS. They will generally recommend taking it in the evening along with pain meds to sleep through the worst of it. Please do it early because if you wait, not only is the pain worse but based on my experience with a natural miscarriage a bit later, it's much more identifiable and it is more difficult emotionally. |
Long acting reversible contraception like an implant is a good idea. She's had one BC failure and while it might make her wise up, you need a new plan. |
Thank you for this. I had not considered it but it’s a very good idea. To all who responded, thank you. I am flying to her this weekend. |