Leaving private for public midyear

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What makes you think public is any better?

I’m not OP but I think the idea is that there’s value in showing your kid that when things are not working you make a change. Sometimes the first change still isn’t right, but it’s better than sending your kid day after day to a place you KNOW to be wrong.

[Anonymous]

Can your kids shadow at possible new school for a day to understand what he’s going to? Have you explored all options with current school?
(We moved DS to different school at end of 1st semester to remove him from toxic situation. Worked well. )

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What makes you think public is any better?

I’m not OP but I think the idea is that there’s value in showing your kid that when things are not working you make a change. Sometimes the first change still isn’t right, but it’s better than sending your kid day after day to a place you KNOW to be wrong.

There's also value in spring your kid that when something isn't right, you speak up and advocate for yourself. We don't know what the problem is or what OP and her child have done to try to fix it.

[Anonymous]

It’s only been 6 weeks of school. I wouldn’t make any choices until at least 1/2 way through the year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you do it if your kid was unhappy?

Yes, only if they are really unhappy and have a therapist discuss potential hurdles in the new school so they are emotionally supported and mentally prepared.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What makes you think public is any better?

I’m not OP but I think the idea is that there’s value in showing your kid that when things are not working you make a change. Sometimes the first change still isn’t right, but it’s better than sending your kid day after day to a place you KNOW to be wrong.

You also need to address problems specifically if possible and learn to navigate complexity rather than throw your hands in the air and give up.

Switching to public after such a limited experience seems like giving up. Again, without more info it is hard to understand this situation fully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s only been 6 weeks of school. I wouldn’t make any choices until at least 1/2 way through the year.

+1 Especially if you've spent a lot on tuition and can't get any of it back.

[Anonymous]

yes.

[Anonymous]

Have lots of conversations..I would let DD know that making this move is permanent amd she needs to be sure it's what she wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What makes you think public is any better?

I’m not OP but I think the idea is that there’s value in showing your kid that when things are not working you make a change. Sometimes the first change still isn’t right, but it’s better than sending your kid day after day to a place you KNOW to be wrong.

Especially in today’s culture, there’s also value in teaching kids resilience and teaching them how to stone up. Do difficult things instead of being a snowplow for them.

[Anonymous]

We did when we bought our house and moved from a not so great pyramid to a supposedly much better one. Daughter was miserable in the private school and getting bullied by a classmate in 3rd grade so she wanted to switch schools anyway. The new public school was very highly rated, our neighbors raved about how good the education was, and it seemed like a smart idea to meet the kids in the neighborhood before the summer.

In hindsight, we should have finished out the school year and just advocated more loudly, up and down the administration, to switch her to a different classroom.

[Anonymous]

I’m surprised people are saying yes. My pool of folks told me, no. Of course, this might be different situations.
I’ll share mine, TLDR: I kept DS in through the school year.

He wasn’t extremely happy with the group of friends, wasn’t challenged enough and personally I did not like the administration.

Ultimately, I kept him in because we were about 4 months out to finish the school year.

We did not go back to the school this year, and he’s thriving at the new one. My recommendation is do what is best for your child and family. Everything isn’t going to be perfect, but for sure weigh out what you’re dealing with. Stability was one thing for me, we were moving, plus taking him out the school would’ve been another change.
I would talk to all parties involved first, try to see change and then make a decision. Also, in the interim, visit the potential kids and make friends with neighborhood children in case they are attending that school.

Good luck OP, I know it’s a hard decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We did when we bought our house and moved from a not so great pyramid to a supposedly much better one. Daughter was miserable in the private school and getting bullied by a classmate in 3rd grade so she wanted to switch schools anyway. The new public school was very highly rated, our neighbors raved about how good the education was, and it seemed like a smart idea to meet the kids in the neighborhood before the summer.

In hindsight, we should have finished out the school year and just advocated more loudly, up and down the administration, to switch her to a different classroom.

So why do you regret? Was the public elementary bad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What makes you think public is any better?

I’m not OP but I think the idea is that there’s value in showing your kid that when things are not working you make a change. Sometimes the first change still isn’t right, but it’s better than sending your kid day after day to a place you KNOW to be wrong.

You mean when things aren't working, you run? bail? No....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We did when we bought our house and moved from a not so great pyramid to a supposedly much better one. Daughter was miserable in the private school and getting bullied by a classmate in 3rd grade so she wanted to switch schools anyway. The new public school was very highly rated, our neighbors raved about how good the education was, and it seemed like a smart idea to meet the kids in the neighborhood before the summer.

In hindsight, we should have finished out the school year and just advocated more loudly, up and down the administration, to switch her to a different classroom.

So why do you regret? Was the public elementary bad?

It was a tough transition socially and we learned that the academics were not as great as we were expecting or as good as the previous school’s.