5 year old refuses to wear "boy" pull ups

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd cut her some slack because she's five and embarrassed about the whole thing. Why don't you use this as an opportunity to work on giving up the pull-ups.

Perhaps part of the reason she isn't aware when she wets is because she's in pull-ups that make it a lot less uncomfortable.

OP here. Personally I wet the bed, unfortunately, until I was 8, and one of my brothers until he was 12!! And we didn't have any such thing as disposable diapers or pull ups, just ruubber sheets and a hell of a lot of wet bedding, so I can state with certainty that use of pull ups isn't causing my kids to be unaware that they are wetting. My older child wet until he was 7 and then suddenly started staying dry through the night, on his own, all of a sudden. Their pediatrician tells me there is a strong genetic component to this.

So I'm cutting her slack on needing the pull ups.

I did try to decorate the pull ups with markers to make them more girl like, but didn't do a good job. I don't know. Thanks for the comments, everyone!

[Anonymous]

The pee pad on the girls pull ups is between the legs and the pee pad on the boys pull up is up front.

It might leak if you use boy pull ups.

I never knew this. DD loved cars and princesses so we bought both kinds when she was in them. When I think back she did leak from time to time. I had leftover pullups that DS now uses and when I think abouty he leaks when he wears the princess ones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I would have had her put the pull-up on, then wear her panties over it. You might talk about times when you've borrowed clothes from a brother/DH/whatever. 5-year-olds are generally very strict about gender stuff, but I think that explaining that these are expensive and that it's not reasonable to spend the money twice makes sense. I would make sure to apologize for getting the wrong ones and let her know you will try not to let it happen again, just so she knows that her feelings are heard.

Oh, brother.

I actually thought that this was very good advice. I have talked with my child who is about this same age, about money, and how it is important not to waste it.

[Anonymous]

OP....how did it go?

[Anonymous]

I'd wait until she falls asleep and put them on her. She might wake up mad, but you could give her something kool, like a couple M&Ms, to reward her for (even unknowingly) wearing them through the night.

PLEASE don't start rewarding your child with candy! It is such a bad precedent to set, especially this early on. If you must use a reward, choose something besides food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I would have had her put the pull-up on, then wear her panties over it. You might talk about times when you've borrowed clothes from a brother/DH/whatever. 5-year-olds are generally very strict about gender stuff, but I think that explaining that these are expensive and that it's not reasonable to spend the money twice makes sense. I would make sure to apologize for getting the wrong ones and let her know you will try not to let it happen again, just so she knows that her feelings are heard.

Oh, brother.

I actually thought that this was very good advice. I have talked with my child who is about this same age, about money, and how it is important not to waste it.

It's the suggestion to grovel to the little princess that is the eye roller.

[Anonymous]

Just buy new ones and give the boy type to a friend. It's only $15!

[Anonymous]

i agree with the pp - just buy the girl ones for her. to me this is a battle not worth fighting.