5 year old refuses to wear "boy" pull ups

[Anonymous]

My daughter still wets at night, so she wears "Good Nights" or other nighttime pull ups.

Last night we ran out of pull ups, so I had her try to sleep without them... she made it till about 4 am when she woke up wet.

So she still needs them. I went out today to buy her some but accidentally picked up the blue boy version instead of the ones decorated for girls or the blank ones.

I opened them without thinking; I can't return them, they are expensive. I think she should just suck it up and wear them -- what's the difference? Girls can ride motorcycles and like sharks, too, right? I don't want to go out tonight and buy her girl pull ups. I think she should just wear these for the next 23 days.

She is adamently refusing to wear them. She's a girl, girls don't wear boy stuff, she woudl feel funny wearing them.

She's really mad at me, wants me to go out and buy her girl pull ups. She's been crying, and has reluctantly put on her underwear as that is the better fo the two bad choices.

If she falls asleep I can put the boy pullups on her so she'll sleep through the night and not wake up wet -- but she'll be really mad with me when she wakes up and finds out.

What would you do if you were me? Go out and get her the girl pull ups tomorrow? Or stick it out?

[Anonymous]

Stick it out.

[Anonymous]

The pee pad on the girls pull ups is between the legs and the pee pad on the boys pull up is up front.

It might leak if you use boy pull ups.

[Anonymous]

Would it be weird to put stickers (if you have any) on them as decorations in hopes that might make them more acceptable to her?

[Anonymous]

I was going to say the same as the PP. They prob won't work for her unless she's sleeping on her stomach.

[Anonymous]

PUt her in the boy ones tonight and promise to buy the girls tomorrow. It's $15 wasted, but worth it. Find a friend with a boy and give them away.

[Anonymous]

keep her in her underwear, wake her up at midnight for a potty visit, and then keep your fingers crossed that she's dry in the AM. this might be your golden opportunity to finally get her completely potty trained! GL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:keep her in her underwear, wake her up at midnight for a potty visit, and then keep your fingers crossed that she's dry in the AM. this might be your golden opportunity to finally get her completely potty trained! GL.

hate to hijack this thread but my 5 year old son still wets the bed at night without pullups. i've tried unsuccessfully to wake him up for a potty visit in the middle of the night. he just won't wake up or finally sits up and then slumps back down before i can get him to stand up, just cannot get him to the bathroom and he's too big to carry. i'm assuming he'll eventually make it through the night or wake himself up. we try no pullups every few months (tried 3-4 times already) or do i just need to work much much harder at getting him up.

[Anonymous]

I would have had her put the pull-up on, then wear her panties over it. You might talk about times when you've borrowed clothes from a brother/DH/whatever. 5-year-olds are generally very strict about gender stuff, but I think that explaining that these are expensive and that it's not reasonable to spend the money twice makes sense. I would make sure to apologize for getting the wrong ones and let her know you will try not to let it happen again, just so she knows that her feelings are heard.

It's a battle I would fight, just because I wouldn't want her to get the idea that money isn't as important as our personal preferences. That said, if you know that you're not going to fight this battle long-term, I would get rid of them in the morning and not bring it up again. It's better to let it disappear as an issue than to take a stand and say, "You are not wasting my money!" Then cave because she was really upset.

[Anonymous]

We actually switched back to diapers since pull ups always leaked. Both of my kids were bedwetters until they were over five. Having diapers also made it nearly impossible to make such a mix up.

[Anonymous]

Find someone with a boy and give them away or swap them if they have some girl pullups as well.

[Anonymous]

tell her to wear it and get over it.... The pee area is no different in them. They use to be but now they are everywhere.

If she wants to wear panties over it then fine..

Tell her if she doesnt wear the boy pull ups and she wets the bed she will have to clean up the bed on her own period....

[IansRecovery]

I'd wait until she falls asleep and put them on her. She might wake up mad, but you could give her something kool, like a couple M&Ms, to reward her for (even unknowingly) wearing them through the night.

Stick it out. Offer her a reward for her acceptance of the unfortunate situation. This will give you practice for the future as well. She isn't always going to be able to get her way.

[Anonymous]

I'd cut her some slack because she's five and embarrassed about the whole thing. Why don't you use this as an opportunity to work on giving up the pull-ups.

Perhaps part of the reason she isn't aware when she wets is because she's in pull-ups that make it a lot less uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have had her put the pull-up on, then wear her panties over it. You might talk about times when you've borrowed clothes from a brother/DH/whatever. 5-year-olds are generally very strict about gender stuff, but I think that explaining that these are expensive and that it's not reasonable to spend the money twice makes sense. I would make sure to apologize for getting the wrong ones and let her know you will try not to let it happen again, just so she knows that her feelings are heard.

Oh, brother.