Do you tell your nosey relatives - cousins, inlaws, aunts how much money you have if they ask?

[Anonymous]

I do. I’m a fed so my salary is already public. I max out my retirement account yearly.

My neighbor knew my mortgage balance one time and he let it slip once. I was surprised by that but I guess that’s public too?

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who asks about your money has bad intentions. They want to judge you, gossip or ask you for money. Don’t tell personal info, essentially to family members because they will use you like an ATM.

Not really. Some people are just curious about how much someone in medical sales or an engineer makes. My family is pretty open about money. I definitely tell my parents our salaries.

Dh had a fancier degree and his parents kept nagging me to stay home when I had kids. Finally I had to explain it to them that my boring job paid more and he couldn’t support our family.

[Anonymous]

My adult kids have asked and I've told them. In one case I suspect the question was driven by an existing money anxiety and a need for reassurance that there would always be a safety net. In the other case, the kid has the same job as one of us and wanted to know what the salary could look like down the road.

[Anonymous]

“Only my accountant and hairdresser know for sure.” Alternatively, “Not enough to retire.”

No, I would never answer such questions.

[Anonymous]

I have an app that tracks exactly what I have and what I spend. Does anyone want to know?

[Anonymous]

I do. I’m a fed so my salary is already public. I max out my retirement account yearly.

My neighbor knew my mortgage balance one time and he let it slip once. I was surprised by that but I guess that’s public too?

Yes, it is. Go to homes.com

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No educated person has relatives like this

This. My relatives are pretty trashy and we have a lot more than they do and they would never ask. They just make comments about how "rich" we are.

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Anonymous wrote:If you have nosey relatives who ask about your cash and retirement accounts do you tell them the truth? Do you worry that they will hit you up for a loan?

No.
I might once I’m over 75 yo and next of kin need to know where my stuff is and be my PoA, will executor, etc.

I don’t give out loans.

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Anonymous wrote:No one has ever asked me. I think inlaws have asked DH because he sends them money, but I'm not a party to that conversation.

Slippery slope there

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Only my accountant and hairdresser know for sure.” Alternatively, “Not enough to retire.”

No, I would never answer such questions.

+ 1 love it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have an app that tracks exactly what I have and what I spend. Does anyone want to know?

Monarch money or quicken simple?

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Anonymous wrote:If you have nosey relatives who ask about your cash and retirement accounts do you tell them the truth? Do you worry that they will hit you up for a loan?

We don't share this information with ANYONE, relative or not.

Only exception is our tax accountant.

[Anonymous]

I give them some believable number. If they don ask for money, it won't be much.
They live on another continent. Easy to escape them.

[Anonymous]

Heck no.

[Anonymous]

Nobody has any interest in how much money i make. None of my family or friends wants my money either. It feels weird because I watch Dave Ramsey Show videos and this is a common among the callers.