Why staying in Biglaw?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Partners often are not making 2mm per year, if she is a newer partner, she is likely not an equity partner, and making between 500-1mm. Maybe she also likes making a ton of money and wants to retire with a luxurious lifestyle at 50.

Sigh. As I said, I was a partner in the same firm. I was equity, and so is she.
I have a very good idea of how much money she's making. No doubt it's $2 million plus.

Yeah, what kind of crazy person would want that salary?! She must be a real wackadoodle

Well, I left the same firm so . . .

[Anonymous]

I dont get it either. If she's that good which I assume she is surely she can service half of her clients or whatever % and work less hard be it at her current firm or another firm. She would have the same engaging work, just not as much of it, that seems like the winning play to me if you dont need the money.

My bet is things aren't good at home and she is avoiding it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dont get it either. If she's that good which I assume she is surely she can service half of her clients or whatever % and work less hard be it at her current firm or another firm. She would have the same engaging work, just not as much of it, that seems like the winning play to me if you dont need the money.

My bet is things aren't good at home and she is avoiding it.

You'd be wrong. Things are fine by all appearances on the home front. We've socialized with her and the husband. Again, no kids.

I get liking the money. I liked the money. But clearly she now has plenty.

[Anonymous]

People who have been doing one thing for their entire adult lives have a hard time stepping away (regardless of the money). It becomes a part of their identity.

Not to knock OP too much but she may also view others who have stepped away from Biglaw for lifestyle reasons or part-time work as weaker. That makes leaving harder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who have been doing one thing for their entire adult lives have a hard time stepping away (regardless of the money). It becomes a part of their identity.

Not to knock OP too much but she may also view others who have stepped away from Biglaw for lifestyle reasons or part-time work as weaker. That makes leaving harder.

OP here. I'm quite confident that she doesn't view me as weak and has plenty of respect for me. I'm also much older. She's also told me repeatedly that she admires me for leaving. And I believe her. She's not a duplicitous person.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it’s very complicated. She likes it. And it sounds like she has never done anything else so she doesn’t know what it’s like not to work like that and can’t imagine it. That is also how I felt (until I didn’t!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dont get it either. If she's that good which I assume she is surely she can service half of her clients or whatever % and work less hard be it at her current firm or another firm. She would have the same engaging work, just not as much of it, that seems like the winning play to me if you dont need the money.

My bet is things aren't good at home and she is avoiding it.

You'd be wrong. Things are fine by all appearances on the home front. We've socialized with her and the husband. Again, no kids.

I get liking the money. I liked the money. But clearly she now has plenty.

How would you know what's going on in her marriage? I mean if you dont know the answer to this question it doesn't sound like youre close enough to her thay she would share her troubles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dont get it either. If she's that good which I assume she is surely she can service half of her clients or whatever % and work less hard be it at her current firm or another firm. She would have the same engaging work, just not as much of it, that seems like the winning play to me if you dont need the money.

My bet is things aren't good at home and she is avoiding it.

You'd be wrong. Things are fine by all appearances on the home front. We've socialized with her and the husband. Again, no kids.

I get liking the money. I liked the money. But clearly she now has plenty.

How would you know what's going on in her marriage? I mean if you dont know the answer to this question it doesn't sound like youre close enough to her thay she would share her troubles.

Fair point, I don’t, but our mutual friend knows her/them much better and I’m confident that’s not the issue. You’ve hit a dead end.

[Anonymous]

My grandpa didn't want to retire at 65 from his job as an R&D executive for an F500 but it was a corporate rule. So he did. He kept a cubicle and went in for free for a year or more to archive the history of his group's inventions. He lived to be 94 and was pensioned for 29 years. He easily could have worked 10-15 years more.

[Anonymous]

You keep saying she’s “normal” with the implication that continuing in her highly successful and lucratively compensated long-term position is abnormal behavior

Your fixation on her and bringing this question to an anonymous message board rather than simply asking your friend doesn’t seem “normal”

[Anonymous]

I’m confused… it would make more sense to leave if she had kids. She probably is able to get good balance not being a mom and having a big job makes all the sense in the world to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You keep saying she’s “normal” with the implication that continuing in her highly successful and lucratively compensated long-term position is abnormal behavior

Your fixation on her and bringing this question to an anonymous message board rather than simply asking your friend doesn’t seem “normal”

As usual, it didn't take long for another DCUM thread to deteriorate into nastiness and insults by an obviously unhappy person.

I'm not "fixated" on her by a long shot. And as I said, we WILL ask her. The conversation that led me to post this on this anonymous forum just happened the other day, and we haven't seen her yet. I posted it only because I thought it raised what might be a generally interesting topic for the forum. If you disagree, skip to the next thread and move on.

Having said all that, yes, I do find it abnormal that a smart, healthy, pretty, happily married, fun, pleasant, childless and non-extravagant woman in her mid 40s who already has millions of dollars banked would continue to slog away 12 hours a day during the week and sometimes weekends (as I know she does) for Biglaw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m confused… it would make more sense to leave if she had kids. She probably is able to get good balance not being a mom and having a big job makes all the sense in the world to me.

70 hour work weeks for a woman is a "good balance" if you don't have kids? Would you say that about a man?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You keep saying she’s “normal” with the implication that continuing in her highly successful and lucratively compensated long-term position is abnormal behavior

Your fixation on her and bringing this question to an anonymous message board rather than simply asking your friend doesn’t seem “normal”

As usual, it didn't take long for another DCUM thread to deteriorate into nastiness and insults by an obviously unhappy person.

I'm not "fixated" on her by a long shot. And as I said, we WILL ask her. The conversation that led me to post this on this anonymous forum just happened the other day, and we haven't seen her yet. I posted it only because I thought it raised what might be a generally interesting topic for the forum. If you disagree, skip to the next thread and move on.

Having said all that, yes, I do find it abnormal that a smart, healthy, pretty, happily married, fun, pleasant, childless and non-extravagant woman in her mid 40s who already has millions of dollars banked would continue to slog away 12 hours a day during the week and sometimes weekends (as I know she does) for Biglaw.

Talk about nastiness. You are really the most annoying DCUM poster…you post an idiotic thread and then you constantly post snarky comments when you literally asked people to comment.

Go ask your stupid friend and report back…after that just go away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You keep saying she’s “normal” with the implication that continuing in her highly successful and lucratively compensated long-term position is abnormal behavior

Your fixation on her and bringing this question to an anonymous message board rather than simply asking your friend doesn’t seem “normal”

As usual, it didn't take long for another DCUM thread to deteriorate into nastiness and insults by an obviously unhappy person.

I'm not "fixated" on her by a long shot. And as I said, we WILL ask her. The conversation that led me to post this on this anonymous forum just happened the other day, and we haven't seen her yet. I posted it only because I thought it raised what might be a generally interesting topic for the forum. If you disagree, skip to the next thread and move on.

Having said all that, yes, I do find it abnormal that a smart, healthy, pretty, happily married, fun, pleasant, childless and non-extravagant woman in her mid 40s who already has millions of dollars banked would continue to slog away 12 hours a day during the week and sometimes weekends (as I know she does) for Biglaw.

Talk about nastiness. You are really the most annoying DCUM poster…you post an idiotic thread and then you constantly post snarky comments when you literally asked people to comment.

Go ask your stupid friend and report back…after that just go away.

Ok, thanks. In the meantime, help me out by first showing me where I was snarky beyond responding to this snark. Then explain why you are choosing to participate in an "idiotic" thread.

Stupid is as stupid does, I guess.