Do you use (real) silver as everyday flatware or do you save it for special occasions?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a sterling set that I was supposed to have inherited but a cousin stole it before my grandma's passing. I have long since let it go, but my mom did not. I was the only grandchild who would have appreciated and used it.

What are your initials? You want mine?

[Anonymous]

Only if my butler has time to polish it

[Anonymous]

Special occasions. I have flatware that I really like. Every now and then, I accidentally scrape one in the garbage disposal. I’d rather use the silver on special occasions— when I’m more likely to pay attention to what I’m doing with it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does anyone purchase sterling flatware anymore? Or do people just inherit it down the family line?
My mother had a sterling set that was probably a wedding gift (1960) and I don't think we ever used it. My father sold the set after Mom passed. It was probably in immaculate condition.

My mom's been trying to give me assorted silver sets for years, and I keep avoiding it. There are at least two full sets, and dozens of serving pieces and mismatched pieces. I want nothing to do with it after a childhood where I was forced to polish it before every party.

That said, we do use cloth napkins at every meal, so I hope my grandmother isn't rolling too much in her grave.

Cloth napkins can be washed in a machine and easily replaced if they are damaged.

[Anonymous]

We only have 3 place settings, so if we only have 3 people dining, we use it, but that's rare. My parents and grandparents did not own silver.

I would use it if I had more. Why not? Maybe when we're empty nesters, we'll switch to silver for our eery day and use the stainless for bigger groups.

[Anonymous]

My sister and I sold both the silver sets that were passed down to us and split the money.

[Anonymous]

I used to, before kids. All my spoons literally disappeared. Anyway, one tip is don’t wash it in dishwasher with rubber, makes it tarnish.
I do use my silver on holidays or when family here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course we use it everyday, we don't use flatware. It's all silver.

I have our kitchen staff ensure it's polished weekly.

Joke aside, you have a point that real silver is high maintenance and must be hand washed and polished.

It is not high maintenance if you know what to do. I put mine in the dishwasher and use plain detergent. You just have to make sure it doesn’t touch non silver items. That makes it tarnish. And handling it often helps too.

Washing in the dishwasher often gives silver a "flat" look without the sheen, and it can remove the darkened/shaded intricate details.

No, it does not. Definitely not. I’ve now been doing it for two + years, every single day. There are rules you have to follow (#1 is NO TOUCHING OTHER METAL ITEMS) but if you follow the rules, your silverware can be washed in the dishwasher and look beautiful. I happen to have an intricate pattern as well btw

https://www.everydaycheapskate.com/house-rules-cleaning-silver-dishwasher/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to, before kids. All my spoons literally disappeared. Anyway, one tip is don’t wash it in dishwasher with rubber, makes it tarnish.
I do use my silver on holidays or when family here.

No no no. The rule to follow is to not let silver touch other metal. I use and wash my silver in the dishwasher every day, and if I follow that rule, I can go weeks without polishing. Of course my family sometimes forgets and someone puts a regular metal item in with the silver, or lets the silverware sit in the sink with pans, and I have to polish, but it’s rare.

I wish I’d known this years ago

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I used to, before kids. All my spoons literally disappeared. Anyway, one tip is don’t wash it in dishwasher with rubber, makes it tarnish.
I do use my silver on holidays or when family here.

No no no. The rule to follow is to not let silver touch other metal. I use and wash my silver in the dishwasher every day, and if I follow that rule, I can go weeks without polishing. Of course my family sometimes forgets and someone puts a regular metal item in with the silver, or lets the silverware sit in the sink with pans, and I have to polish, but it’s rare.

I wish I’d known this years ago

You sound exhausting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course we use it everyday, we don't use flatware. It's all silver.

I have our kitchen staff ensure it's polished weekly.

Joke aside, you have a point that real silver is high maintenance and must be hand washed and polished.

It is not high maintenance if you know what to do. I put mine in the dishwasher and use plain detergent. You just have to make sure it doesn’t touch non silver items. That makes it tarnish. And handling it often helps too.

No, it's not a question of tarnish. Silver will tarnish no matter what you do. The dishwasher prohibition for silver was because it's a soft metal, and rattling around next to harder metals in the silverware basket dinged it up.

Now that most dishwashers have the flat upper rack where each utensil is in its own little cradle, it's not an issue anymore.

No, it will not. How do I know this? Because I use my silver every day and put it in the Dw every day. Don’t let it touch other metal items, and make sure to handle it - eg touch it and use it- and it will not tarnish.
https://www.everydaycheapskate.com/house-rules-cleaning-silver-dishwasher/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I used to, before kids. All my spoons literally disappeared. Anyway, one tip is don’t wash it in dishwasher with rubber, makes it tarnish.
I do use my silver on holidays or when family here.

No no no. The rule to follow is to not let silver touch other metal. I use and wash my silver in the dishwasher every day, and if I follow that rule, I can go weeks without polishing. Of course my family sometimes forgets and someone puts a regular metal item in with the silver, or lets the silverware sit in the sink with pans, and I have to polish, but it’s rare.

I wish I’d known this years ago

You sound exhausting.

You sound like someone who must be right. Even when you’re wrong

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course we use it everyday, we don't use flatware. It's all silver.

I have our kitchen staff ensure it's polished weekly.

Joke aside, you have a point that real silver is high maintenance and must be hand washed and polished.

It is not high maintenance if you know what to do. I put mine in the dishwasher and use plain detergent. You just have to make sure it doesn’t touch non silver items. That makes it tarnish. And handling it often helps too.

No, it's not a question of tarnish. Silver will tarnish no matter what you do. The dishwasher prohibition for silver was because it's a soft metal, and rattling around next to harder metals in the silverware basket dinged it up.

Now that most dishwashers have the flat upper rack where each utensil is in its own little cradle, it's not an issue anymore.

No, it will not. How do I know this? Because I use my silver every day and put it in the Dw every day. Don’t let it touch other metal items, and make sure to handle it - eg touch it and use it- and it will not tarnish.
https://www.everydaycheapskate.com/house-rules-cleaning-silver-dishwasher/

I was confused, then I realized... Maybe yours is plate? I grew up polishing the ancestresses' silver, which we used at every meal, and ran through the dishwasher every time (in a special basket to keep the pieces from touching each other.) Still needed to be polished, because sterling tarnishes black. Plate tarnishes in a lighter color, so you can get away without polishing it for longer.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I have two sets of sterling flatware, one American (Baltimore Kirk repousse) and one English, a mixture of silversmiths but most in the same fiddle thread shell. It's heavier than the Baltimore silver. I use some of both regularly. Love the feel and appreciation of family and history. I handwash them, which is easy peasy and no big deal to me. Just a few minutes at the sink.

[Anonymous]

I love Repousse - one of my grandmothers had that - my aunt has it now. Mine is Francis I, so clearly I love very ornate silver.

My mother’s silver is Fiddle Thread, which of course has been made by many, but most of hers is Frank Smith, I think. She uses hers a lot more than I used mine (She also has a lot of silver inherited from various relatives, dating back to the 19th century. She mixes patterns with abandon on the table).