Living in the same house?

[Anonymous]

OP again: how do you get a decent settlement-I make less than half of him. It sucks as all these years I could have pushed for a better paying job but instead supported him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again: how do you get a decent settlement-I make less than half of him. It sucks as all these years I could have pushed for a better paying job but instead supported him

How much does he value his reputation / would he be upset if cheating was publicized?

What's the job risk with an AP at work?

The best way is to get him to think it's his idea to divorce and he has to buy his way out. In that case maybe hope the AP wants to marry him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What state? In VA fault will be helpful - at a bare minimum, your separation period is only 6 months.

Yes, get photos and proof

It is irrelevant if he is the higher earner. She won’t get “more.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Spouse has been refusing to accept that he has been cheating. I know as I saw his car in front of his APs apt in addition to several other signs. I have voice recordings which I don’t intend to use (wish I don’t have them and was ignorant). I want to confront him finally and what to plan an amicable divorce. We will need to live in the same house as we have one kid in the house. I am just dreading thinking how unpleasant it would be…he will never ever confess. Should I look into getting a PI to get a clearer evidence and make it easy? I don’t have any family around

Maybe he really hasn't been cheating. Maybe you are just overly paranoid and unhinged? Consider all possibilities before destroying your kids.