Moved to a new neighborhood full of married people
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Anonymous
Was going to post something like this. I would not go over to the home of someone I don't know under the guise of "watching football". I don't want to be stuck with some stranger for however many hours when I don't know them! Wash your car in the driveway, do some landscaping, etc. |
Anonymous
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Just leave the married women alone. A lot of them are probably lonely..thankfully you are too old for them
If you were a 30 years old single guy different story. |
Anonymous
| Have you tried knocking on their door and introducing yourself and leaving a card with your contact info? |
Anonymous
| If the neighborhood has sidewalks and small lots you can probably just meet people out and about. Just wave and introduce yourself as you see people on your block. But if the lots are bigger and/or there are garages, I think maybe send some cards. You can just put them in mailboxes saying hello, your name and contact info. It’s always a good idea to have contact info for neighbors. A neighbor I rarely talk to texted me when my yard was flooding and I was out of town from a card like that. |
Anonymous
Your date was wrong -woman |
Anonymous
| Suggest a miniature schnauzer because they are the best dogs and attract the best people. |
Anonymous
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Volunteer for something. Does the neighborhood have a homeowners association? Or pool or anything that needs volunteers? I have made some nice, different connections that way.
If you have kids they will do a lot of the work of bringing you onto the radar of other families. |
Anonymous
| OP, I'm 46 and our neighborhood friends are between 5 years younger and 10 years older. Some of our group includes divorced dads (moms all moved out of the neighborhood, interestingly). We invite them to group get togethers, including activities where the kids are there even if they don't have theirs. We play pickleball regularly - husbands, wives, and kids - on the courts in our neighborhood. We also watch sports together quite a bit at each other's houses, and do dinners and game nights and other activities. We actually just recently met a divorced dad and he was immediately invited to cone to dinners and join our pickleball group. He does have a career (military) related to some of the people in the group, which is how they initially connected. Do your kids go to school with any of the kids in the neighborhood? We all first became friends because of our kids (they all attend the same school and span 7 or so grades there) but now the adults are legitimate friends. If they're a friendly community you will probably be able to gain some traction by inviting people over for things. I'll say, as a woman, don't discount the wives. I'm friends with all the husbands and I have done things one-on-one with the divorced husbands because I've always had a lot of male friends and my husband isn't an insecure idiot. Honestly, it's probably at least half the efforts of the wives that bring new people in, including single dads. And no, we're not swingers or anything, we're just social people who enjoy hanging out with good people. Good luck! |
Anonymous
+1 Dogs are the way to go. They're also social creatures, which helps. |
Anonymous
| Halloween! Put a table and chairs out in your front yard and a cooler with beers and a few bottles of wine. Invite neighbors to stop over for a drink. Perfect "excuse" for a get together and the drop in aspect makes it an easier thing for people to commit to (vs. a 3-hour football game). |
Anonymous
I have a dog and a cat and would consider myself more of a cat person. My dog has helped me make many friends, the cat never leaves the house. |
Anonymous
| Divorced women are contagious. No one will want you around. |
Anonymous
OP is a man. |
Anonymous
This is a joke, right? |
Anonymous
This. And only during the week after 9:00 and before 4:00. |