Is forgetfulness just rude or something else?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Or just run of the mill selfish jerk

What 77+ year old man isn't a bit of a selfish jerk with poor memory? My grandparents both became pretty self-involved at the end of their lives. They were suffering, and they reverted to an emotionally immature, childish version of themselves.

Again, that was in the context of the general question of: Was he always like that??

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Elders over age 75 aside….

It’s rude.

It’s rude when they initially forget and it’s doubly rude when people teach them ways, methods and systems not to be so forgetful and they never implement them.
Then they are rude and irresponsible over and over.

Or maybe they forget the “ways, methods and systems “.. Not everybody’s brain processes and retains information in the same ways, and not everyone has the same capacity. There’s no magic moment of demarcation that starts at age 75 either.

Then they’re handicapped and should try to work with a therapy team on the basics.

My adhd & ASD family members have lists of what to turn off all over each room if their home, they no longer drive given anxiety at older ages, they only worked until age 50, they know their limits and “do the best with what they gave.”

But most are kind, which is required when you’re forgetful and not paying attention. One is “stubborn” and gets angry all the time. That makes things more difficult for him and anybody trying to put up with him.

Handicapped? Who uses that word anymore? You sound completely clueless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My father doesn't remember anything I tell him, unless it's of keen interest to him. His wife (my mother passed away a decade ago) says there is nothing wrong with him, he's just a little rude. He's 77. Is this how it goes?

Dude, it is normal cognitive decline because of aging.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Or just run of the mill selfish jerk

What 77+ year old man isn't a bit of a selfish jerk with poor memory? My grandparents both became pretty self-involved at the end of their lives. They were suffering, and they reverted to an emotionally immature, childish version of themselves.

+1 He’s 77!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Elders over age 75 aside….

It’s rude.

It’s rude when they initially forget and it’s doubly rude when people teach them ways, methods and systems not to be so forgetful and they never implement them.
Then they are rude and irresponsible over and over.

Or maybe they forget the “ways, methods and systems “.. Not everybody’s brain processes and retains information in the same ways, and not everyone has the same capacity. There’s no magic moment of demarcation that starts at age 75 either.

Then they’re handicapped and should try to work with a therapy team on the basics.

My adhd & ASD family members have lists of what to turn off all over each room if their home, they no longer drive given anxiety at older ages, they only worked until age 50, they know their limits and “do the best with what they gave.”

But most are kind, which is required when you’re forgetful and not paying attention. One is “stubborn” and gets angry all the time. That makes things more difficult for him and anybody trying to put up with him.

Handicapped? Who uses that word anymore? You sound completely clueless.

“Invisible disabilities” people are handicapped.

[Anonymous]

Or they golf well!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Elders over age 75 aside….

It’s rude.

It’s rude when they initially forget and it’s doubly rude when people teach them ways, methods and systems not to be so forgetful and they never implement them.
Then they are rude and irresponsible over and over.

Or maybe they forget the “ways, methods and systems “.. Not everybody’s brain processes and retains information in the same ways, and not everyone has the same capacity. There’s no magic moment of demarcation that starts at age 75 either.

Then they’re handicapped and should try to work with a therapy team on the basics.

My adhd & ASD family members have lists of what to turn off all over each room if their home, they no longer drive given anxiety at older ages, they only worked until age 50, they know their limits and “do the best with what they gave.”

But most are kind, which is required when you’re forgetful and not paying attention. One is “stubborn” and gets angry all the time. That makes things more difficult for him and anybody trying to put up with him.

Handicapped? Who uses that word anymore? You sound completely clueless.

“Invisible disabilities” people are handicapped.

Nobody talks like that anymore. You're having some sort of disconnect or you're not a native speaker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Or they golf well!

Muscle memory is strong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My father doesn't remember anything I tell him, unless it's of keen interest to him. His wife (my mother passed away a decade ago) says there is nothing wrong with him, he's just a little rude. He's 77. Is this how it goes?

Dude, it is normal cognitive decline because of aging.

Not if he was always like that.

Oh well.

Just minimize time with him and set boundaries.

Does the new wife inherit everything or will things be split with her and you/ your sibs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My father doesn't remember anything I tell him, unless it's of keen interest to him. His wife (my mother passed away a decade ago) says there is nothing wrong with him, he's just a little rude. He's 77. Is this how it goes?

Dude, it is normal cognitive decline because of aging.

Not if he was always like that.

Oh well.

Just minimize time with him and set boundaries.

Does the new wife inherit everything or will things be split with her and you/ your sibs?

I actually do not know. My guess is he'll leave lots to her.

[Anonymous]

What does he remember? If things of keen interest to him “stick” just fine, then it very well could be rudeness. Some people are just self-centered like that at every age. Need to know more to judge here.