If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, if want the parishioner discount then you need to be a parishioner. This is basic.

If you don’t attend on Sundays then your child can attend as a non-parishioner.

It is shameful to even ask this!

Yes, this. Our catholic school requires you to be a parishioner, and they also specify that you need to attend weekly and give a minimum of X amount per year. That's only if you want to get the 3K discount, of course.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you are getting the parishioner discount then you usually have to be parishioners in good standing, meaning you attend mass. If you’re not then there is no expectation.

How do they check whether you “attend mass.”

Because they attend it too and they see you. Everyone's a community together. That's the point!

Or because they see your envelope.

Nobody is taking Mass attendance. And nobody cares as much as you think they do.

There are like 5 Catholic churches in a 5 mile radius around here. We attend the one with the Mass that best fits our busy weekend schedule.

Get yourself to Mass on Sunday (or Sat evening). Doesn't matter where. That,s the beauty of one holy Catholic apostolic Church. But you knew that already, right?

Are you just making this up? Because in the application process they often ask for you to be an active member in their parish. Not another one, if you want the in parish discount. If you check that box then do your own thing then that makes you the a-hole. They won’t come after you but I guess if you really think you got one over them then yay you? You’re missing the point entirely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Went to Catholic school. See all the negative judgemental responses here? It’s why I walked away. Oh and quite a few of the families in my school never went to mass. But donated and that's all they really cared about.

Then don’t take the parish discount. Only liars and thieves are getting upset about this. OP is obviously trolling anyway, probably you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the school is affiliated with a parish, are we expected to attend mass on the weekends at that parish? Do they check? Or can we just send in donations electronically?

You are not expected to go to Mass at the parish that the school is affiliated with, but if you are Catholic you do have a Sunday obligation to attend Mass somewhere. Our school was very clear with us at orientation that if the children are getting one message from the school and a conflicting message from the home this can be very confusing for them once they begin preparations for First Communion--and Mass attendance is part of that (it can be distressing if they're taught at school that they have an obligation to attend Mass on Sundays, and then are unable to fulfill that obligation). That said, I've gone to the most conservative parishes now for a decade and a half, and never in that time have I heard a priest inquire of anyone when they last attended Mass or went to Confession. If I go to Mass at a different parish one week, the priest at my parish never asks me "where were you last week?".

I'm glad that our school is seamlessly integrated into the overall parish. Other than drop-off in the mornings and the occasional pickup (my wife usually does pickup) I wouldn't have many opportunities to meet other parents outside of social time after Sunday Mass. My daughter loves seeing her friends on Sundays at Mass. And I think it's great that she's learning that she's part of a multigenerational community ranging from babies born literally a couple weeks ago to elderly people contemplating the ends of their lives, rather than a community made exclusively of children and a few teachers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why even send your kids to catholic school if you fully intent not to abide by catholic teaching? Be the example, follow the example.

Lots of people do, and we did. I assume the Catholics hope to convert some people along the way.

Lol no, that is not how we are.

[Anonymous]

Quick answer - it depends on who you ask.

Catholics are supposed to go to church on Sunday. This is nothing new. Many families who attend a Catholic school are not Catholic or are not practicing Catholics. There is no one taking attendance. However, agree with PPs, if you’re not a participating member of the parish, you should not request parish financial support (though I am sure so do and it will never come up).

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe all the preachy, judgmental, holier than thou comments here. I assume that they’re all from Satanists or atheists who are deliberately trying to make Catholics look bad and undermine the church. Only explanation. Please tell me this isn’t indicative of Catholics in this area.

How about I attend virtually. Good enough for you people?

[Anonymous]

Our school offers a Catholic discount. You just need to provider a baptismal certificate for that. You may need to show that your registered as a Parishioner for admissions preference, but that doesn't impact the tuition discount.

Nobody is taking attendance at mass, but they do look at you funny if you arrive late. :-/

[Anonymous]

How big of a LOSER do you have to be to track which of your friends or classmates’ families attend mass. I’d likely kill myself if I ever got to a point where I was even thinking of doing that. So I doubt there’s anything to worry about.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, if want the parishioner discount then you need to be a parishioner. This is basic.

If you don’t attend on Sundays then your child can attend as a non-parishioner.

It is shameful to even ask this!

Yes, this. Our catholic school requires you to be a parishioner, and they also specify that you need to attend weekly and give a minimum of X amount per year. That's only if you want to get the 3K discount, of course.

How much? So stupid — just raise tuition by that x amount then. Money is fungible. So many silly games they play…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, if want the parishioner discount then you need to be a parishioner. This is basic.

If you don’t attend on Sundays then your child can attend as a non-parishioner.

It is shameful to even ask this!

Yes, this. Our catholic school requires you to be a parishioner, and they also specify that you need to attend weekly and give a minimum of X amount per year. That's only if you want to get the 3K discount, of course.

How much? So stupid — just raise tuition by that x amount then. Money is fungible. So many silly games they play…

Don’t the parish and diocese subsidize your tuition?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, if want the parishioner discount then you need to be a parishioner. This is basic.

If you don’t attend on Sundays then your child can attend as a non-parishioner.

It is shameful to even ask this!

Yes, this. Our catholic school requires you to be a parishioner, and they also specify that you need to attend weekly and give a minimum of X amount per year. That's only if you want to get the 3K discount, of course.

How much? So stupid — just raise tuition by that x amount then. Money is fungible. So many silly games they play…

Not a silly game. The parish and archdiocese run the school and funds for the school don’t just come from tuition, they come from parishioners. And the main purpose of the school is to education children that are members of the parish. Why shouldn’t parishioners pay less? I don’t mind paying more to have my non-Catholic child attend.

[Anonymous]

Our church uses FaithDirect. And with seven masses each weekend, I cant imagine anyone has any idea whether you go or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are getting the parishioner discount then you usually have to be parishioners in good standing, meaning you attend mass. If you’re not then there is no expectation.

That actually mean you donate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our church uses FaithDirect. And with seven masses each weekend, I cant imagine anyone has any idea whether you go or not.

I attend virtually. My parish has at least one virtual option. Does that count? If not, why do they have it?