Is it becoming uncommon for men to marry broke women?

[Anonymous]

There are different kinds of broke women.

We know someone who is marrying an unemployed recent grad from a top graduate school. She will likely never work. She comes from a wealthy family.

She is different than a broke unemployed girl who didn’t finish college or went to some bad state school and comes from a broken or poor family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a guy who makes about 400k who just proposed to his fiance who works an hourly retail job (but has a college degree). It just occurred to me that all the other couples I know make fairly even salaries with the man usually earning slightly more. I’m wondering why he didn’t go for a woman with a 6 figure job.

Either he doesn't care or doesn't want to wait for a better option. I see many couples with unbalanced finances but mostly low earner is in a low paying professional job for nonprofits or other do-gooder jobs, not in hourly retail.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a guy who makes about 400k who just proposed to his fiance who works an hourly retail job (but has a college degree). It just occurred to me that all the other couples I know make fairly even salaries with the man usually earning slightly more. I’m wondering why he didn’t go for a woman with a 6 figure job.

Either he doesn't care or doesn't want to wait for a better option. I see many couples with unbalanced finances but mostly low earner is in a low paying professional job for nonprofits or other do-gooder jobs, not in hourly retail.

Or he wants someone submissive and dependent who he can control.

[Anonymous]

May be he wants to focus on his career and have a wife who won't mind leaving hers to raise kids and run household on her own. Makes for low stress and low conflict lives for both with defined roles not competing interests.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are different kinds of broke women.

We know someone who is marrying an unemployed recent grad from a top graduate school. She will likely never work. She comes from a wealthy family.

She is different than a broke unemployed girl who didn’t finish college or went to some bad state school and comes from a broken or poor family.

Interesting how different people view different things. In my opinion woman A sounds spoiled and lazy and likely to be a selfish spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women don't need jobs the same way men do.

I will bite. Why is that? As long as you have a pu$$y, who needs self sufficiency??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are different kinds of broke women.

We know someone who is marrying an unemployed recent grad from a top graduate school. She will likely never work. She comes from a wealthy family.

She is different than a broke unemployed girl who didn’t finish college or went to some bad state school and comes from a broken or poor family.

Interesting how different people view different things. In my opinion woman A sounds spoiled and lazy and likely to be a selfish spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Then they will find someone younger when women reach 35+

+1

Think Lisa from Real Housewives of Miami.

They are the first wives. Or, the husband grew up humble and wants a down to earth woman (like Matt Damon’s situation).

Have no idea about real housewives. But yeah agree with the matt damon approach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:May be he wants to focus on his career and have a wife who won't mind leaving hers to raise kids and run household on her own. Makes for low stress and low conflict lives for both with defined roles not competing interests.

Exactly! Primary job of men is to be providers and primary job of women is to take care of the household and kids. This is natural and results in happy families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a guy who makes about 400k who just proposed to his fiance who works an hourly retail job (but has a college degree). It just occurred to me that all the other couples I know make fairly even salaries with the man usually earning slightly more. I’m wondering why he didn’t go for a woman with a 6 figure job.

Either he doesn't care or doesn't want to wait for a better option. I see many couples with unbalanced finances but mostly low earner is in a low paying professional job for nonprofits or other do-gooder jobs, not in hourly retail.

Or he wants someone submissive and dependent who he can control.

Wives are supposed to be submissive.

[Anonymous]

My wife had a dead-end job when we met and was unemployed by the time we got engaged. But she's been at her current job for 15 years and is now senior management. There's a difference between being broke and being broke with potential.

[Anonymous]

If a woman works, then she has to have some money.

If she works and doesn't have her own money and some to spend on dating, then she's bad with money and a red flag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a guy who makes about 400k who just proposed to his fiance who works an hourly retail job (but has a college degree). It just occurred to me that all the other couples I know make fairly even salaries with the man usually earning slightly more. I’m wondering why he didn’t go for a woman with a 6 figure job.

Either he doesn't care or doesn't want to wait for a better option. I see many couples with unbalanced finances but mostly low earner is in a low paying professional job for nonprofits or other do-gooder jobs, not in hourly retail.

Or he wants someone submissive and dependent who he can control.

Are you that misogynistic and classist that you can’t perceive of a woman working retail who is intelligent? You don’t sound like the sharpest knife in the block yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a guy who makes about 400k who just proposed to his fiance who works an hourly retail job (but has a college degree). It just occurred to me that all the other couples I know make fairly even salaries with the man usually earning slightly more. I’m wondering why he didn’t go for a woman with a 6 figure job.

Either he doesn't care or doesn't want to wait for a better option. I see many couples with unbalanced finances but mostly low earner is in a low paying professional job for nonprofits or other do-gooder jobs, not in hourly retail.

Or he wants someone submissive and dependent who he can control.

Are you that misogynistic and classist that you can’t perceive of a woman working retail who is intelligent? You don’t sound like the sharpest knife in the block yourself.

A poor woman who works retail is easy prey for controlling men. Intelligent or not. Its about the power imbalance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um maybe he loves her.

Love doesn't exist in DCUM land. It's all about money and social standing.