Would this bother you?

[Anonymous]

Besides the money is she leaving them any keepsakes? jewelry, art, any important momento?
That could show her closeness to your kids. While the other kids need the $$.

[Anonymous]

You are a bitter shrew

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never let what other people do with their money bother me. It's wasted energy.

Same. And she's probably trying to do something nice for the kids she has no relationship with through no fault of their own.

It sounds like you have other issues with your sister and maybe you need to work through those instead.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it would. That is rude. The question is, do you tell them? I can only imagine that when she dies your kids will feel angry that you concealed this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it would. That is rude. The question is, do you tell them? I can only imagine that when she dies your kids will feel angry that you concealed this.

I would be embarrassed if my kids were angry over something like that.

[Anonymous]

Yah, it would bother me. But not enough to cause a rift.

Also, I'm not at all finance savvy, but maybe she's not being super specific with you right now. Maybe she's got your kids as her 401k or life insurance beneficiaries? Are those able to be separate from the will? Or maybe she's gifting them her corvette and family ring. I guess it's best to be prepared for nothing, but also be prepared for a speech about how much more special it was to be with Aunt Larla all of those times when cousins didn't get the chance to have her love. (and hopefully you don't have to have this conversation for a very long time!)

[Hudders]

Thanks everyone. No I won't tell them. Hopefully it's a very long time from present day.

I don't even know why she shared with me.

Her money, her choice. This isn't something I would discuss with anyone, hence posting here.

[Anonymous]

I thought you were going to say you were hurt she was splitting between all 8, but she's cutting yours entirely, thats hurtful. But you say you are close. I am trying to see from her pove. Maybe she feels guilt and shame over not having a relationship, it's not the niece and nephew's faults, so she sees it as making up for a lifetime of bonding with your 2. And she sees yours as not needing money, same as her not paying you back, though that's not fair either. Maybe she told you so you all wouldn't feel blindsided and confused if she passed.

You do have the right to be hurt. I thinkg given all her strained relationships, she has emotional issues and this is making her do that. It might not be against you, or your kids.

[Anonymous]

Maybe.. But you can’t tell her what to do with her money.

[Anonymous]

this would bother me. she'll be dead and you will have to deal with it, which makes it even more annoying to me. things never work out as evenly as you think they will, but this is odd to me. is she planning to leave anything else to them? her house, her belongings? a life insurance policy or contributions to a 529 or something...maybe in her mind she has done something else for them that you don't know about.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s wrong. If she doesn’t have kids and wants to deal to all of them she should do it equally or deal with resentment .
Leaving some out causes issues, maybe not now, but as they get older they’ll know.

[Anonymous]

How old are your kids OP?

[Anonymous]

I would ask your sister to write your kids a letter, give them something important to her (not money) etc to be clear that she’s not leaving them out because she doesn’t care about them.