Friend always sends mass emails to a group of old work friends to make plans, people start responding and then she

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just make the plans. Majority rules. She can follow up and attend or not. She's just starting it she doesn't have to plan the whole thing for you.

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Yes. Why is everyone so paralyzed if she does not plan? The idea itself was a good one.

Eh because we are all super busy ourselves and since she started the chain, she should at least follow up, don’t you think? ‘Hey, so glad this is coming together. I’m in! Can someone find a restaurant?’

She literally just doesn’t respond. At all. And then 3 months later, will start a new email.

Doesn’t anyone call her out, even nicely, like "yes Larla, the 25th works, can you make the reservation and send the evite?"

Yes! Not that directly, but someone will eventually say something along these lines, and… crickets.

I’ve also communicated with her off the chain and tried to gently suggest she should respond ‘hey, I saw the group email, I can’t attend on that date, but it looks like there’s a group who can, so is there a location chosen?’

And I receive an evasive or clueless sounding response back. Again, almost as if there isn’t a recollection that she started the talk of the plans

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Aspirational social planning but lacking follow through, likely due to anxiety.

Hmm I sometimes wonder if she remembers the emails

Drunk dialing? Email version.

+1. Classic emotional wine alcoholic behavior.

What makes you say this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just make the plans. Majority rules. She can follow up and attend or not. She's just starting it she doesn't have to plan the whole thing for you.

+1
Yes. Why is everyone so paralyzed if she does not plan? The idea itself was a good one.

Eh because we are all super busy ourselves and since she started the chain, she should at least follow up, don’t you think? ‘Hey, so glad this is coming together. I’m in! Can someone find a restaurant?’

She literally just doesn’t respond. At all. And then 3 months later, will start a new email.

Doesn’t anyone call her out, even nicely, like "yes Larla, the 25th works, can you make the reservation and send the evite?"

Yes! Not that directly, but someone will eventually say something along these lines, and… crickets.

I’ve also communicated with her off the chain and tried to gently suggest she should respond ‘hey, I saw the group email, I can’t attend on that date, but it looks like there’s a group who can, so is there a location chosen?’

And I receive an evasive or clueless sounding response back. Again, almost as if there isn’t a recollection that she started the talk of the plans

That is super weird. It doesn't even sound like she's doing it for the attention. Is she flaky in other ways?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just make the plans. Majority rules. She can follow up and attend or not. She's just starting it she doesn't have to plan the whole thing for you.

+1
Yes. Why is everyone so paralyzed if she does not plan? The idea itself was a good one.

Eh because we are all super busy ourselves and since she started the chain, she should at least follow up, don’t you think? ‘Hey, so glad this is coming together. I’m in! Can someone find a restaurant?’

She literally just doesn’t respond. At all. And then 3 months later, will start a new email.

Doesn’t anyone call her out, even nicely, like "yes Larla, the 25th works, can you make the reservation and send the evite?"

Yes! Not that directly, but someone will eventually say something along these lines, and… crickets.

I’ve also communicated with her off the chain and tried to gently suggest she should respond ‘hey, I saw the group email, I can’t attend on that date, but it looks like there’s a group who can, so is there a location chosen?’

And I receive an evasive or clueless sounding response back. Again, almost as if there isn’t a recollection that she started the talk of the plans

That is super weird. It doesn't even sound like she's doing it for the attention. Is she flaky in other ways?

Not exactly flakey, no. But often anxious and frustrated over life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aspirational social planning but lacking follow through, likely due to anxiety.

Delusionally-nostalgic social wishing with no intention of actually following through, likely due to alcohol and/or other substance use.

[Anonymous]

If the rest of you or some subset want to get together, converge on a date time and place and then cc: everyone on an email to Larla saying hope to see you there!
If you all don't follow thru you all don't really care enough about seeing each other, do you?
You can't really use punishing Larla as the reason nothing ever happens.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Aspirational social planning but lacking follow through, likely due to anxiety.

Delusionally-nostalgic social wishing with no intention of actually following through, likely due to alcohol and/or other substance use.

I don't quite understand this jump.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the rest of you or some subset want to get together, converge on a date time and place and then cc: everyone on an email to Larla saying hope to see you there!
If you all don't follow thru you all don't really care enough about seeing each other, do you?
You can't really use punishing Larla as the reason nothing ever happens.

They probably didn't care, hence them not ever taking the initiative to set anything up. That's pretty normal. What is odd is making motions to set something up and then bailing, multiple times.