Friend always sends mass emails to a group of old work friends to make plans, people start responding and then she

[Anonymous]

disappears…

These are former co worker/friends…

The emails typically start with a sweet, almost maudlin invitation ‘I miss you all so SO much, it’s been such a challenging year, we MUST make a plan! What dates work for you? I’m free X Y Z dates… how about we plan to meet in this area? Xoxoxo’ and then people jump in and start responding, and she doesn’t respond again… total silence. Nothing.

This happens maybe twice a year or more, for the last several years. And each time she sends a new email, there is no acknowledgement that a previous chain was started and dropped…

I don’t know what to make of this…

[Anonymous]

Aspirational social planning but lacking follow through, likely due to anxiety.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aspirational social planning but lacking follow through, likely due to anxiety.

Hmm I sometimes wonder if she remembers the emails

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aspirational social planning but lacking follow through, likely due to anxiety.

I don't know, I have anxiety and can picture myself doing that once, and not knowing how to handle once I flaked, but I'd literally be too anxious to ever try again.

[Anonymous]

Just make the plans. Majority rules. She can follow up and attend or not. She's just starting it she doesn't have to plan the whole thing for you.

[Anonymous]

Well...if she starts the plans and people want to follow through on the plans...then why don't people go without her?

If I was a friend - I would take the lead on it. How? I would say - Wow! Lovely idea, Kimberly. I was looking forward to that show too! Hey everyone, I plan to go to abc restaurant for lunch before the show. Who wants to join? Let me know by - xx/xx/xxxx. I am going to reserve a table. Also, I will be buying tickets for the show Kimberly suggested - so, if you let me know and venmo me by Friday - I will put in the order for all of us.
When/where do we want to meet for the show?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just make the plans. Majority rules. She can follow up and attend or not. She's just starting it she doesn't have to plan the whole thing for you.

+1
Yes. Why is everyone so paralyzed if she does not plan? The idea itself was a good one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just make the plans. Majority rules. She can follow up and attend or not. She's just starting it she doesn't have to plan the whole thing for you.

+1
Yes. Why is everyone so paralyzed if she does not plan? The idea itself was a good one.

+1

[Anonymous]

I know this friend!
She is charismatic and everyone pretty much has her in common...i.e. we are all "mutual friends of P." So no one's doing anything without her.
I think she's moved on to new people but wants to make sure she's not forgotten?
I know she's left behind a lot of friend groups in her wake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just make the plans. Majority rules. She can follow up and attend or not. She's just starting it she doesn't have to plan the whole thing for you.

+1
Yes. Why is everyone so paralyzed if she does not plan? The idea itself was a good one.

Eh because we are all super busy ourselves and since she started the chain, she should at least follow up, don’t you think? ‘Hey, so glad this is coming together. I’m in! Can someone find a restaurant?’

She literally just doesn’t respond. At all. And then 3 months later, will start a new email.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aspirational social planning but lacking follow through, likely due to anxiety.

Or, she is an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just make the plans. Majority rules. She can follow up and attend or not. She's just starting it she doesn't have to plan the whole thing for you.

+1
Yes. Why is everyone so paralyzed if she does not plan? The idea itself was a good one.

Eh because we are all super busy ourselves and since she started the chain, she should at least follow up, don’t you think? ‘Hey, so glad this is coming together. I’m in! Can someone find a restaurant?’

She literally just doesn’t respond. At all. And then 3 months later, will start a new email.

Doesn’t anyone call her out, even nicely, like "yes Larla, the 25th works, can you make the reservation and send the evite?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aspirational social planning but lacking follow through, likely due to anxiety.

Hmm I sometimes wonder if she remembers the emails

Drunk dialing? Email version.

[Anonymous]

She's bi-polar. She sends when manic, then doesn't respond when overwhelmed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aspirational social planning but lacking follow through, likely due to anxiety.

Hmm I sometimes wonder if she remembers the emails

Drunk dialing? Email version.

+1. Classic emotional wine alcoholic behavior.