How to “take the keys away” when parent legally makes own decisions

[Anonymous]

What about one of those cars rigged for disabled people who drive?

[Anonymous]

My friend got the pcp involved, he recommended a driving test. You can blame it on the stroke (ie make it clear its not a dementia thing).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good advice to say you are one accident away from getting sued and losing everything.

I am in the same position as the OP. My elderly mother recently had a stroke and wants to drive again. I found some good advice and this helpful video: How to Get Back To Driving After Stroke https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Oe5asWMiUWo

Here's my plan

- Go with my mother to her next appointment with PCP. Tell the PCP that Mom wants to drive again and ask for advice. Is she medically cleared to drive? Any cognitive, vision, physical concerns that need to be evaluated and addressed first? Share my concerns about slow reaction time, stiffness, weakness, mental and physical fatigue.

- Ask PCP for prescription for evaluation by a "OT driving rehab specialist" (here is a list of them in Virginia https://www.dmv.virginia.gov/sites/default/files/documents/cdrslist.pdf)

- Press PCP to tell my mother that she cannot drive until she passes the OT evaluation or else the doctor will report her to the DMV. The OT might decide my mother should never drive again or my mother could possibly drive after some rehab.

OP here - this is perfect thank you. Didn’t know about driving OTs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just hide the keys. There is no reason to reason with her.

She wants to buy a car. Read the original post before commenting.

[Anonymous]

If you are out of state, don’t expect that anyone in New Hampshire will listen to your concerns. You can ask her if she’s spoken to her doctor about this. If she allows you to go to medical appointments with her, you can ask. Otherwise, not your problem.

That’s what I was told when I saw what medications my parent is on and was a passenger with him once. It was scarier than teaching a teen to drive. This was in a Maryland county.

[Anonymous]

Who cares about legal, my dh sat his father down and said he wasn’t safe to drive, he wasn’t going to allow him to kill someone and hand over the keys. My FIL said he’d been waiting for someone to come take them but he had fully intended to drive until that happened. If that doesn’t work every time they drive call in an erratic driver report to the police, enough of those might get action taken by the authorities, sigh, doubtful, jealous of the Canadian poster above, it’s not a constitutional right people!