Daycare sickness dilemma
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Anonymous
| If your child needed ear tubes then they would have gotten those ear infections no matter what. Also, eczema is not contagious and did not come from daycare. Styles are also not contagious. |
Anonymous
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Kids also get sick in elementary middle high school and college.
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Anonymous
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These comments are bizarre. It is no secret that babies have underdeveloped immune system and better to be sick at 6 than 6 months.
Good example of why https://www.nih.gov/news-events/nih-research-matters/avoiding-rsv-infancy-reduces-asthma-risk Yes it is a sad reality that most families need childcare in infancy. I love my career but would love to avoid daycare until kids are older....most families send kids back sit since parents need to work which perpetuates the cycle. |
Anonymous
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Reading these comments and feeling very grateful that we’ve had a positive daycare experience (at a center no less).
Have had 2 kids (now 18 mo and 3) in daycare since 6 months old and haven’t had a sickness that kept them home in over 6 months. Maybe we’ve gotten very lucky but hope new parents aren’t totally scared about this - sounds like OP has been especially unlucky. (Or maybe daycare has especially stringent policies?) |
Anonymous
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These comments are bizarre. It is no secret that babies have underdeveloped immune system and better to be sick at 6 than 6 months.
Good example of why https://www.nih.gov/news-events/nih-research-matters/avoiding-rsv-infancy-reduces-asthma-risk Yes it is a sad reality that most families need childcare in infancy. I love my career but would love to avoid daycare until kids are older....most families send kids back sit since parents need to work which perpetuates the cycle. Everyone would be healthier if paid sick leave was more available or more people could telework |
Anonymous
| My DS and his wife are having a baby in a month. This is why I have offered my babysitting services for 1 year. |
Anonymous
My parents have been watching my kid for past 3 years ( she's about to start preschool and I dread the germs) Best gift in the entire world |
Anonymous
| Daycare is not for infants. Infants don't need socialization. That is for ages 2-3+. |
Anonymous
| Huh daycare is for childcare. Unfortunately we are rare country with minimal or zero maternity/paternity leave. |
Anonymous
As someone who has divorced parents with a dad and stepmom who have never babysit my kids, and never offered to, and whose mother and stepfather have done it only a handful of times for extreme circumstances (eg the second child being born and needing to watch the first one), I hope your children realize how fortunate they are for your generosity. Raising kids is hard, and doing it without supportive grandparents to help or a village of extended family and friends makes it so much harder. |
Anonymous
As someone who knew this but daycare was all we could afford when we had our first child and had to use it, this comment is unhelpful. |
Anonymous
This is what my mom, who was a SAHM, told me. She said we were all really sick in kindergarten, day care just gets it over with earlier. But maybe she was lying to make me feel better about my kids going to day care? |
Anonymous
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I feel you so hard, OP. I posted about this very thing when I was in the thick of it with my then-3 year old. He had 13 viral illnesses in seven months, one of which landed him in the hospital. This is what I said then:
It’s kind of crazy the extent to which we’ve all accepted this as normal. It may be common, but it’s definitely not normal or ok. There are reasons we as a society have chosen to do nothing about this issue. And I do mean nothing - no improved air filtration, no sane parental leave (and rollbacks of wfh), no masking requirements for sick teachers or older kids, no subsidizing in-home care, no reducing classroom ratios, literally nothing whatsoever except for letting kids suffer constantly and pumping them full of Motrin and antibiotics over and over and over. This despite the fact that there are now mountains of evidence that viral infections (particularly Covid) can have long-lasting, sometimes permanent health effects. My own kid developed reactive airways (basically a precursor to asthma, for which there is no cure) after a bout with a nasty daycare virus. The reason we’re doing nothing is because the burdens of all this fall disproportionately on women. Of course there are exceptions, involved fathers, etc., but for the most part, we’re the ones who are expected to do early pickups and stay home nursing sick kids and sacrifice our careers, health, and sanity dealing with the fallout from the shitty options we’ve been given. Obviously none of this is going to change anytime soon and I live in reality. I know that the underlying reasons don’t really make a difference to my day-to-day. But honestly, we should all demand better. ….If it makes you feel better, OP - things did get better when he turned four and we switched schools. He still gets sick maybe every other month, but not every other week like he had been. Solidarity! |
Anonymous
| I have bad news. I always heard that if your child goes to daycare they build immunity to all sorts of things and won't be sick in elementary school. My daughter went to daycare and was sick a ton, and now she's in elementary school and is sick a ton. It just never ends. |
Anonymous
| Yeah kids kid sick. They should get sick. You want them to be sick. Never being sick is not a good thing. Sure it's an inconveniece to you but it's a good thing. So are germs. |