From BS to College

[Anonymous]

Is she going to be a freshman or sophomore? Then yes, I would go. Don’t you get to decide if you’re paying?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is ridiculous and out of touch.

Why?

[Anonymous]

If my parents had asked me if I wanted them to help me move in to college I would have burst out laughing. Of course, I was going all the way across the country, but it would have never occurred to any of us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Didn’t you help her move in each year at boarding school?

No. I moved her in freshman year. Each year she would store most of her stuff at school and then it was delivered to her dorm room the next year.

I'm going to go. She doesn't seem care one way or the other.

[Anonymous]

Of course I would go. I can’t imagine either of my children suggesting I stay home.

[Anonymous]

I say this is your choice on whether you go or not - not hers. You are still her parent and this is a milestone for you as much as it is her. Try to let her understand this point of view. Clearly you are not going to smother her, your past record of sending her to BS is evidence of that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Didn’t you help her move in each year at boarding school?

No. I moved her in freshman year. Each year she would store most of her stuff at school and then it was delivered to her dorm room the next year.

I'm going to go. She doesn't seem care one way or the other.

Oh yeah - definitely go (I'm the15:38 PP but didn't see your post before I answered)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I say this is your choice on whether you go or not - not hers. You are still her parent and this is a milestone for you as much as it is her. Try to let her understand this point of view. Clearly you are not going to smother her, your past record of sending her to BS is evidence of that.

WE came very close to sending ours to BS (as it was, they attended the BS as a day student) and I think I am fairly smother-y.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had twin college roommates back in the day… and they were fiercely independent. Moved across the country without their parents help. The twins had each other. Both played a D1 sport at college. Their parents never visited in 4 years of college. Never saw them play one game. The girls never seemed to care. But it was sad to me.

The parents finally came to help them pack up their stuff at graduation. Warm family. But I never forgot how sad I felt for them. Independent or not.

I have a 2026 D3 commit. I'm hoping to make as many of her games as possible. Doesn't last forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If my parents had asked me if I wanted them to help me move in to college I would have burst out laughing. Of course, I was going all the way across the country, but it would have never occurred to any of us.

Different families are different. I went to college 1000 miles from home, and my mom flew with me for drop-off. My parents visited a few times and came to graduation. We did the same for our kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Which are you leaning with? If you don’t go, could you potentially regret it later?

If she's done it on her own for the last 3 years how is this any different? It’s not like it's the first time she's leaving home.