When do you stop enforcing bed time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't police my 15 year old's bed time but I do make sure the phone is gone. Find some other way to stay up all night. Fine with me. It's not going to be on a phone.

Move the phones to charge on your night stand.

Thanks for the response. The problem with phones in the bedroom is that depending on the time of year the kids have workouts very early in the morning and need them for carpool pick up and I don’t really want them bursting in our bedroom. Has anyone used a timer safe?

[Anonymous]

My 16 year old stays up later then I do. I tell him goodnight and remind him not to stay up too late. Natural consequences. If he does (and yes, many nights he does) he's tired the next day.

He never has an issue getting up for school or sports practice before school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 15yo has a bad habit of staying up very late. He has been like this since he was a baby and we had wild bed time battles. The last couple of nights I have been up early in the mornings (because the dogs have been barking at foxes) and caught him on his phone or reading a book. We make all the kids leave their phone in the kitchen at night so he’s clearly taking back his phone after I go to bed. Is this a time for natural consequences or should I continue to fight this fight? FWIW he’s pretty good about getting up in the morning.

What’s he doing on the phone in the middle of the night? Do you know?

I’d be concerned about that at this point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Around age 7/8. They don’t need you to tell them when they’re tired. The phone is another issue, put it in a safe if you don’t want them to have it after a certain time and they aren’t listening.

This is not accurate for many children. Having the wherewithal to determine your needed energy and healthy sleep habits is a learned and taught thing. At 7 kids will always chose the immediate gratification without understanding the consequences. Youre either a bad/lazy parent who doesn't care or have an extraordinary child beyond thier maturity if your experience is otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't police my 15 year old's bed time but I do make sure the phone is gone. Find some other way to stay up all night. Fine with me. It's not going to be on a phone.

Move the phones to charge on your night stand.

Thanks for the response. The problem with phones in the bedroom is that depending on the time of year the kids have workouts very early in the morning and need them for carpool pick up and I don’t really want them bursting in our bedroom. Has anyone used a timer safe?

I guess depending on the time of year you could have different situations. I cant really imagine my 15 year old leaving the house before Im able to wake up, or being annoyed by them opening the door to get their phone if i can then roll over and sleep another hour. But im not a late sleeper. So i would just always put it in my room.

If child is waking so early you cant be bothered to get out of bed, natural consequences will certainly get them.

[Anonymous]

Do parents not know how to turn off their wifi at night and use family sharing to put downtime and app limits. It really isn't that hard.

[Anonymous]

Around 12ish.