When did your late bloomer bloom?

[Anonymous]

Does he want to find friends? If so and he hasn’t been successful in this up until this point, what is the issue? Socially awkward?

[Anonymous]

I think starting him with a good therapist over the summer would be a good idea.

[Anonymous]

OP here. We tried to get her in therapy a few times during HS but she always resisted so we gave up. I do think she has social anxiety which is what I have and wish I could have helped her more knowing what I know now (no therapy for me until I was in my 30s). But she seems content which is also why we didn’t push therapy too much.
Yes this is a DD. For some reason PPs assumed it was a DS and I felt the need to correct that.

[Anonymous]

Well my late bloomer DS definitely bloomed freshman year of college, in large part because he joined a club team of his sport (made it in the second/spring tryout with his roommate) and also joined a fraternity (very non typical fraternity) also with his roommate. He spent first semester pretty much with his roommate but they both spread their wings that spring and he just graduated with a great group of friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We tried to get her in therapy a few times during HS but she always resisted so we gave up. I do think she has social anxiety which is what I have and wish I could have helped her more knowing what I know now (no therapy for me until I was in my 30s). But she seems content which is also why we didn’t push therapy too much.
Yes this is a DD. For some reason PPs assumed it was a DS and I felt the need to correct that.

upgrading.

I would encourage on-campus counseling. Also ask her what her ideal friend group would be like. Or at least one friend or two. That can help point the direction of maybe figuring out what clubs to join or what types of people to befriend.