When a man wants to wait for sex…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just make the first move. My guy was reserved and I was attracted to him. It’s what I did and we are still together and have the best intimacy (including emotional). And we laugh about our first few dates.

Agreed. She made the first move and I didn't say no. Married 20 years.

[Anonymous]

Does he like Broadway musicals?

[Anonymous]

Three dates and you're ready to bang? Do you know his last name?

Anyways, wait. or make the first move.

[Anonymous]

My husband was like this. Turns out he’s low drive and doesn’t like to initiate. I mistook it for being “polite”.

Keep an eye out for sexual compatibility and don’t ignore your gut.

[Anonymous]

Gay

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve gone on three dates with a man over the last month. He hasn’t tried to kiss me on any of them, just walked me to my door and hugged me. I know he’s definitely interested in me, we talk on the phone daily and he’s let me know how much he likes me.

I texted him afterwards to let him know next time he can kiss me and do more. He responded that he won’t go too far unless he knows there’s something there, so we have to take our time.

Red or green flag? I don’t mind waiting, but I know men typically have high sex drives and want to get in bed as fast as possible. I don’t want to spend months dating him just to find out he doesn’t like sex. He’s also not religious.

DH here: Impossible to answer without knowing more, particularly your ages. But men sometimes do get gun shy if they are the sort who gets attached after sex and have had some bad experiences as a result. While the stereotype is that men are just in it for the sex and can compartmentalize no problem, there are actually quite a few that can catch feelings in that way. I had a rather painful ghosting experience once where we went from super-hot-and-heavy for a couple of months to “do I know you?” So, some men learn caution the hard way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve gone on three dates with a man over the last month. He hasn’t tried to kiss me on any of them, just walked me to my door and hugged me. I know he’s definitely interested in me, we talk on the phone daily and he’s let me know how much he likes me.

I texted him afterwards to let him know next time he can kiss me and do more. He responded that he won’t go too far unless he knows there’s something there, so we have to take our time.

Red or green flag? I don’t mind waiting, but I know men typically have high sex drives and want to get in bed as fast as possible. I don’t want to spend months dating him just to find out he doesn’t like sex. He’s also not religious.

DH here: Impossible to answer without knowing more, particularly your ages. But men sometimes do get gun shy if they are the sort who gets attached after sex and have had some bad experiences as a result. While the stereotype is that men are just in it for the sex and can compartmentalize no problem, there are actually quite a few that can catch feelings in that way. I had a rather painful ghosting experience once where we went from super-hot-and-heavy for a couple of months to “do I know you?” So, some men learn caution the hard way.

Why did she ghost you ?

[Anonymous]

Guy really likes OP and wants to make it last. It's a huge red flag because no red-blooded man wants to wait, let alone that long.

At best, he'll make a good friend. If that's enough, the dating should proceed.

[Anonymous]

You texted him that WTF

[Anonymous]

"I texted him afterwards to let him know next time he can kiss me and do more"

You're weird. That's a weird thing to text. You should have addressed in person or made the first move, etc.

Maybe he has herpes and does not want to disclose unless he has decided he really likes you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I texted him afterwards to let him know next time he can kiss me and do more"

You're weird. That's a weird thing to text. You should have addressed in person or made the first move, etc.

Maybe he has herpes and does not want to disclose unless he has decided he really likes you.

No, he's weird. What man needs to be told he can kiss and do more?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ED issues

This. And they stem from a much bigger issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ED issues

This. And they stem from a much bigger issue.

Which issue ?

[Anonymous]

I would only date men with whom there is enough chemistry that we couldn’t help but kiss or make out early. I wait until exclusivity for actual sex, but I need to know the fire is there. I would respect him not wanting to jump into bed, but the no kissing thing is kinda crazy to me.

[Anonymous]

This is a tough one. Any woman who tells me next time I can kiss her and do more, trust me we will go to pound town lol.

Women are tough to read and understand. If you move too fast you are a turn off. If you move too slow you are a turn off. If you are extra slow they will wonder if you are gay or if you don't find them attractive. Now that everything is initiated online and people don't go through the trials and errors of initially meeting a woman and taking your shots and learning along the way, I can see this being a problem for a lot men.

For women in my opinion it's easier because they control access to their coochie.

I don't know. Good luck to you though.