Which will matter more - full pay or boot straps story?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I grew up very poor (government cheese , no dentist etc) til my mom remarried when I was 17. So I don’t know why people here are so confused. A lot more likely than, we’re rich but my parents sent me to a title 1 school for giggles.

But you probably didn't go to a private high school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I feel poor at Dalton" is a bad look regardless. Find a totally different, unique, topic.

I think this is OP's situation. In NYC they are poor but can still afford full pay in college.

You can get financial aid at nyc private high school even though HHI is as high as 800K.
https://www.nytimes.com/2024/12/03/nyregion/nyc-private-school-tuition.html
With that income they are certainly full pay for college. But in OP's private high, they are financial aid kids, and genuinely felt that "distance travelled".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I grew up very poor (government cheese , no dentist etc) til my mom remarried when I was 17. So I don’t know why people here are so confused. A lot more likely than, we’re rich but my parents sent me to a title 1 school for giggles.

But you probably didn't go to a private high school.

I did. We moved to a new state. I was going into senior year. Even leaving a bad situation it wasn’t what I wanted to do. I wanted to stay behind but there were zero responsible adults so had to switch. I should have figured out a way to graduate early.

The private wasn’t fancy but it was the only private in new place. And my mom and stepdad didn’t care that much about fancy schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"My parents sent me to a low-income school because they felt like it, then opted out when it actually mattered" is not a distance traveled story.

This doesn’t sound like a likely scenario.

In NYC, immigrant story more likely. Over the course of a childhood, family fortunes can change a lot

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She should look up the origins of "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" because it is widely misunderstood and misused.

This

[Anonymous]

I'm confused . . . who did the pulling on whom's bootstraps here? And if your family has the resources to be full-pay, I don't think anyone is going to be compelled by a "I wasn't as rich as the really rich kids in NYC" story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I feel poor at Dalton" is a bad look regardless. Find a totally different, unique, topic.

I think this is OP's situation. In NYC they are poor but can still afford full pay in college.

You can get financial aid at nyc private high school even though HHI is as high as 800K.
https://www.nytimes.com/2024/12/03/nyregion/nyc-private-school-tuition.html
With that income they are certainly full pay for college. But in OP's private high, they are financial aid kids, and genuinely felt that "distance travelled".

I have a DF whose kids go to Dalton. Their HHI is well above $1 million/year (big law partner) and they have an enormous UES apartment, but it pales in comparison to the mutigen family wealth and/or hedge fund $ of other families. She told me her kids feel poor because they don't own multiple country homes or fly private.

This does not make for a great college essay topic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I feel poor at Dalton" is a bad look regardless. Find a totally different, unique, topic.

I think this is OP's situation. In NYC they are poor but can still afford full pay in college.

You can get financial aid at nyc private high school even though HHI is as high as 800K.
https://www.nytimes.com/2024/12/03/nyregion/nyc-private-school-tuition.html
With that income they are certainly full pay for college. But in OP's private high, they are financial aid kids, and genuinely felt that "distance travelled".

I have a DF whose kids go to Dalton. Their HHI is well above $1 million/year (big law partner) and they have an enormous UES apartment, but it pales in comparison to the mutigen family wealth and/or hedge fund $ of other families. She told me her kids feel poor because they don't own multiple country homes or fly private.

This does not make for a great college essay topic.

No. Especially when there are Prep for Prep kids who had real world obstacles to overcome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I grew up very poor (government cheese , no dentist etc) til my mom remarried when I was 17. So I don’t know why people here are so confused. A lot more likely than, we’re rich but my parents sent me to a title 1 school for giggles.

But you probably didn't go to a private high school.

I did. We moved to a new state. I was going into senior year. Even leaving a bad situation it wasn’t what I wanted to do. I wanted to stay behind but there were zero responsible adults so had to switch. I should have figured out a way to graduate early.

The private wasn’t fancy but it was the only private in new place. And my mom and stepdad didn’t care that much about fancy schools.

And a "I got pulled up by my bootstraps when my mommy married rich" essay would have been terrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I feel poor at Dalton" is a bad look regardless. Find a totally different, unique, topic.

I think this is OP's situation. In NYC they are poor but can still afford full pay in college.

You can get financial aid at nyc private high school even though HHI is as high as 800K.
https://www.nytimes.com/2024/12/03/nyregion/nyc-private-school-tuition.html
With that income they are certainly full pay for college. But in OP's private high, they are financial aid kids, and genuinely felt that "distance travelled".

I have a DF whose kids go to Dalton. Their HHI is well above $1 million/year (big law partner) and they have an enormous UES apartment, but it pales in comparison to the mutigen family wealth and/or hedge fund $ of other families. She told me her kids feel poor because they don't own multiple country homes or fly private.

This does not make for a great college essay topic.

No. Especially when there are Prep for Prep kids who had real world obstacles to overcome.

Prep for Prep doesn't have a strict income cutoff. Higher income families are required to pay more, not completely free. But prep for prep can come in anywhere between 0 to 250K. Some of them can afford college full pay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm confused . . . who did the pulling on whom's bootstraps here? And if your family has the resources to be full-pay, I don't think anyone is going to be compelled by a "I wasn't as rich as the really rich kids in NYC" story.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I grew up very poor (government cheese , no dentist etc) til my mom remarried when I was 17. So I don’t know why people here are so confused. A lot more likely than, we’re rich but my parents sent me to a title 1 school for giggles.

But you probably didn't go to a private high school.

I did. We moved to a new state. I was going into senior year. Even leaving a bad situation it wasn’t what I wanted to do. I wanted to stay behind but there were zero responsible adults so had to switch. I should have figured out a way to graduate early.

The private wasn’t fancy but it was the only private in new place. And my mom and stepdad didn’t care that much about fancy schools.

And a "I got pulled up by my bootstraps when my mommy married rich" essay would have been terrible.

Can we not be so dismissive about people’s life story. My mom (not mommy) worked her entire life. My dad died at 25 in a car accident. No life insurance. Mom w two toddlers. My brother and I lived entire our entire childhoods before mom remarried a lovely guy. And for sure my entire college application reflected years 0-17, scouting, the library. Didn’t mention moving 10 times but if I saw a kid today w my story I would have them include it. Went to state u. My stepdad paid for it.

You all jump to the weirdest shit on this board. I know it’s about your own insecurity but it’s ugly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I feel poor at Dalton" is a bad look regardless. Find a totally different, unique, topic.

I think this is OP's situation. In NYC they are poor but can still afford full pay in college.

You can get financial aid at nyc private high school even though HHI is as high as 800K.
https://www.nytimes.com/2024/12/03/nyregion/nyc-private-school-tuition.html
With that income they are certainly full pay for college. But in OP's private high, they are financial aid kids, and genuinely felt that "distance travelled".

I have a DF whose kids go to Dalton. Their HHI is well above $1 million/year (big law partner) and they have an enormous UES apartment, but it pales in comparison to the mutigen family wealth and/or hedge fund $ of other families. She told me her kids feel poor because they don't own multiple country homes or fly private.

This does not make for a great college essay topic.

No. Especially when there are Prep for Prep kids who had real world obstacles to overcome.

Prep for Prep doesn't have a strict income cutoff. Higher income families are required to pay more, not completely free. But prep for prep can come in anywhere between 0 to 250K. Some of them can afford college full pay.

TEAK and Oliver both have lower income cutoffs

[Anonymous]

I think the question of “how do we signal full pay when my census tract doesn’t help” is an interesting one. ESP if you’re donut hole and want to submit css profile just in case

Where are you all getting Dalton? There are plenty of privates in nyc that aren’t Dalton.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I grew up very poor (government cheese , no dentist etc) til my mom remarried when I was 17. So I don’t know why people here are so confused. A lot more likely than, we’re rich but my parents sent me to a title 1 school for giggles.

But you probably didn't go to a private high school.

I did. We moved to a new state. I was going into senior year. Even leaving a bad situation it wasn’t what I wanted to do. I wanted to stay behind but there were zero responsible adults so had to switch. I should have figured out a way to graduate early.

The private wasn’t fancy but it was the only private in new place. And my mom and stepdad didn’t care that much about fancy schools.

And a "I got pulled up by my bootstraps when my mommy married rich" essay would have been terrible.

Can we not be so dismissive about people’s life story. My mom (not mommy) worked her entire life. My dad died at 25 in a car accident. No life insurance. Mom w two toddlers. My brother and I lived entire our entire childhoods before mom remarried a lovely guy. And for sure my entire college application reflected years 0-17, scouting, the library. Didn’t mention moving 10 times but if I saw a kid today w my story I would have them include it. Went to state u. My stepdad paid for it.

You all jump to the weirdest shit on this board. I know it’s about your own insecurity but it’s ugly

Then it sounds like your situation is totally different from the OP's, so I'm not sure why you brought it up.